Long distance

[maiden dome]

So like I’m in a long distance relationship and like every time we meet up I find that I miss her even more after she has to leave. Like our meetup time has been split in half, and we have to be so so careful around my family after they snooped through therapy documents and found out I was gay. I don’t know it’s not even like a negative thing really but I don’t have anyone to talk to about it, I could go on rambling about her and how much I miss her and love her but all my friends just say ew or we should break up if I miss her that much (I don’t really have a whole lot of friends who genuinely care that much.) I just saw her though and she left hours ago but I can’t even sleep because I miss her so dearly right now😔😔

[sharp pier]

You're like a little lost puppy whining when their human leaves the room, and honestly, it’s kind of adorable, in a chaotic way. Try taking a deep breath, and maybe grow a tiny bit of courage too. Right now, you sound like an extra clingy kid who just found out nap time is over. I can’t imagine what it’s like for your girlfriend, having to navigate your theatrical sadness. Missing her is fine, but come on, it’s not like she’s gone forever. You’ll see her in a few weeks, so try to act like a slightly more functional adult, and maybe dial down the emotional meltdown just a notch

[vestal juniper]

why you have a listener role this is beyond absurd of a response

[worldly mauve]

Holy… based.

[maiden dome]

So hey um we’ve actually worked on my emotions quite well over the years both of us know the signs and how to deal with problems when they happen. She’s told me she misses me just as much as I miss her but I came here to rant about it because I can understand that being told too much can be overwhelming, I’m not a dysfunctional adult and I can handle the fact I only see her for a few days every few months or longer but I don’t think missing her is a bad thing so I don’t understand why you called it a meltdown

[calm gust]

its not a meltdown idk what that person was on abt

its perfectly normal to miss ur partner when u see them rarely

[sharp pier]

Because this is a strong emotional reaction. You’re really struggling with your girlfriend leaving after a visit, and it’s understandable to miss her. However, it isn’t healthy to feel so distressed that you can’t sleep or feel like you have to constantly stay in touch to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Right now, your reaction is intense, and it might help to find ways to manage these feelings more calmly

[maiden dome]

I’m not in distress or overwhelmed, my intention with my original message was genuinely just that I miss her and it’s because I love her so much and want to be together for longer amounts of time which isn’t possible currently. It wasn’t in a negative way I just wanted to get out my emotions because most people don’t want to hear about my lovey dovey talk about her.

[sharp pier]

omg babe, u literally said u miss her sooo much, like it’s keeping u up at night and u can’t stop thinking about her, and that’s totally okay, but tbh that’s kinda a sign ur still hung up on ur girlfriend, not that u r emotionally chill rn lol
also like, i don’t get how u can just go around being all lovey dovey and then be surprised when ppl call u a lil sappy sap, like that’s literally the point of being corny about someone u love, lol. it’s cute, just maybe don’t stress if ppl tease u a bit, ok?

[maiden dome]

Yeah I blocked that person I don’t know if that’s like allowed here but I didn’t like where that was going and I don’t want to fight with people

[calm gust]

nah they dont know what theyre saying what ur feeling is perfectly normal

ur looking for support and ur in a tough situation and thats okay, anyone can experience that

theyre tweaking and the analogies they were making were so weird

[maiden dome]

I know it just felt very condescending like I wasn’t trying to be negative but they kept making it out that way

[calm gust]

yeah its not ur fault at all dw they were objectuvely being weird

[worldly mauve]

Nah, Nicole was based af. Only listener giving the realest advice.

[sharp pier]

Trust me.. I know what I’m saying

[sharp pier]

Ok

[calm gust]

right because telling somebody theyre like "an extra clingy kid who just found out nap time is over" for missing their partner is normal

get a grip bro

[sharp pier]

Don’t call me “bro” I’m not a boy

[calm gust]

u compare people to dogs and children, i literally dont care what u do or dont want to be called

[sharp pier]

Bruh 💀

[calm gust]

yeahhh

[sharp pier]

Bruh 💀

[worldly mauve]

That’s not nice. Pretty cringe.

[calm gust]

u calling me cringe w that pfp

[worldly mauve]

You’re insulting my physical appearance, now?

While using an anime profile picture?

[calm gust]

its breaking bad

[worldly mauve]

I didn’t break anything. Please, don’t harass me.

[calm gust]

gove me ur cranial measurements NOW

[worldly mauve]

Nah, that’s harassment.

[calm gust]

sorry brother i shouldnt have said anything u obv got a lot on ur mind

my bad bro

[worldly mauve]

Thank you.

[worldly mauve]

Hi. You misspelled a word a couple times. It’s definitely, not defiantly. Defiantly is another word that means to stand against something without wavering. Hope I’m being helpful.

[maiden dome]

Thank you honestly, I never meant for any of this to become a negative thing when in the end. I have grounded myself since she’s left and don’t miss her nearly as much as I had when this started. I don’t get why some people see this as a bad thing and make it negative when it really isn’t, it’s just something hard that I have to face but I know I can do it in a healthy way and have been since we started dating long distance