#I struggle being friends with people my age.

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pale elbow
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I have noticed this pattern throughout my life that I tend to make better friends with those noticeably older than me. Sometimes I make good relationships with people younger than me but most of the time it is NEVER people my age. I don't know why but I tend to have better relationships with differenr age groups, people my age tend to distance themselves from me and sometimes exclude me.

I am in college and I don't tend to spend a lot with my batch mates because sometimes I feel like I don't belong with them but when I am with my seniors, I feel happy and welcomed. I also noticed I act more immature when I am around those my age but I find myself a better person being with my older friends. Same goes when I am around younger people, I tend to act better because I want to be good older figure to them. But I just don't know why I can't enjoy the company of those my age. :( It isn't even about being in the same year too because I also am okay with my classmates who are older than me. It is just those of my age I really don't have any proper relationship with.

pale elbow
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plss

gritty snow
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heyy, i think both of us talked about this already on one of my posts but tbh maybe u just didnt click with anybody, thats also possible...
im pretty much in the same situation as u and i still am hoping that i might form a friendship with somebody once i find the right people for it

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i really dont know what to say to help u because frankly i cant help myself either but if u rly want we can be friends

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gritty snow
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what do u like to do

pale elbow
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more friends yay!

gritty snow
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:3

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gritty snow
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omg thats so neat i like to draw too

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what do u usually draw

pale elbow
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YEAHH LEZGO

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Tbh i failed to mention that my problem is only irl

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online i actually have friends my age

gritty snow
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tbh yk what

night heron
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yoo i have the same problem as you!!

gritty snow
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i genuinely think covid fucked our generation up

night heron
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except im 17

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gritty snow
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and thats why there are so many lonely people who dont know how to socialize anymore

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night heron
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ive rarely had a good relationship with ppl my age man

gritty snow
pale elbow
# gritty snow what?

yeah, ive been surrounded with older people so I tend to enjoy their company more, those i met around my age do stuff I simply dont understand like gossip or still act like teenagers

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gritty snow
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also such a weird thing to say to somebody, "im too immature for u"

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who even says that lol

pale elbow
pale elbow
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someone else (my bf) told me those classmates of mine might be too immature for me

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unlike them, my older friends dont shun or treat me differently when i made a mistake and they would treat me like a human being still, but those my age act like i dont exist when they see me mess up even just a little 🥀🥀🥀

gritty snow
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i think ur just surrounded by shitty people

pale elbow
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yeah thinking about it that might be the case...

gritty snow
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plenty of 18-19 yo i met are mature af and dont do such things

gritty snow
pale elbow
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aw man i cant believe i bought them expensive gifts from my trip

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i shouldce given those to me other older friends instead 🥀

gritty snow
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how old are ur "older friends"?

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gritty snow
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i would still say they are ur age

night heron
# pale elbow 🥀wats ur story

i either talk to people younger than me and get to be someone who matters and help them out like an older sibling (im the oldest of 3 siblings too)

OR i talk to older people who actually know how to have intelligent conversations and say interesting things and talk about things that matter
And idk when you're older i think maybe you're more accepting of people's flaws or smth cuz people my age see my in my element and think im a fucking weirdo instead of the awesome super fun person i am

pale elbow
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so to them they are older than me even if its just by a few months

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it is considered impolite to call someone directly by first name if they are older

gritty snow
pale elbow
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especially since my friwnds are my seniors in college

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gritty snow
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so u can find a 25 yo whos less mature than u or a 17 yo whos more mature than u, all kinds of people exist

pale elbow
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maybe its not the physical age

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maybe its the mentao age

pale elbow
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i shouddve looked at it like that

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wait

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come to think of it

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im older than one of my seniors by a few days and were actually friends

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....

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maybe im just surrounded by the wrong kinds of people 🥀

gritty snow
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yeahh, i would say that too

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i really dont understand why u say u have older friends when theyre literally just a few months older😭sorry maybe its js a culture shock but thats so weird

pale elbow
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but why did it happen three times 😭 first in middle school, then in highschool now in college

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gritty snow
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in that case all of my friends are older friends too lol

night heron
# pale elbow that makes so much sense

Yepppp
Also when i was in elementary i had friends, but for some reason girls don't know how to have a normal freaking relationship so it was always some drama i was put in the middle of. Middle school was also a bunch of girl drama, and in high school i'm not even allowed to leave my house soooo now i just have like 3 real friends (none of whom have the capacity to fit all my social needs)
In middle school evb hated me so i was friends with the high schoolers (still am, THEY GRADUATED IM SO SAD)

night heron
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pale elbow
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being the eldest does actually affect you in some way

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since you are the older you are expected to be more mature for the sake of ur younger siblings

night heron
pale elbow
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Maybe we just like maturity and feel like we got no time to deal with nonsense

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because some people make huge deals out of nothing

night heron
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pale elbow
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we have a huge age gap so yeah

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when he came to the world I lost all my youngest sibling privelege 🥀

night heron
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oh man FOURTH?

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YEAH

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# night heron LITERALLY

😭 have u experienced someone just treating you differently because you made a small mistake

night heron
night heron
pale elbow
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its not even big its literally you wearing slippers to school and the guard just called u out

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night heron
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LOL

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i still appreciated people and tried helping them out even if they got scolded in class and this is the thanks i get 🥀

night heron
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😂

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i cant be perfect yknow I have a strong personality irl and my classmates dont like me for it 🥀

night heron
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SAMEEE

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night heron
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i like befriending shy people and people who dont really talk, but once i bring those people out of their shells THEY GHOST ME

pale elbow
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thank you @gritty snow for ur help, it was never the age it was always the mental state of those around us aoki 😔

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night heron
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wait is it a regina george thing but ur a good regina george

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and then ur cady just ghosts u coz they think theyre better now

night heron
night heron
pale elbow
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AYO THAT IS SO REAL LIKE SERIOUSLY THATS THE THANKS YOU GET🥀🥀🥀

night heron
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i literally stuck with these people for like 2 years trying to make sure they knew i cared about them
and then they came out of their shells and POOF, DISAPPEARED

pale elbow
pale elbow
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ive experienxed that too and looking back now i just think that at least I helped them out🥀🥀🥀 but now I dont emotionally invest myself with people who dont genuinely see me as a friend or try to understand me as a person 🥀🥀🥀

night heron
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night heron
pale elbow
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why are they so ungrateful 😭

pale elbow
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that actually is something good to apply in my life

night heron
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If I have a positive impact on the other person then i guess that's good right

pale elbow
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thank you for sharing that💖

night heron
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That's what I learn in church, love everyone, even those people who hate you. ✨

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At least ur not the one being a bad person 💓

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this has been a wonderful thread 🙏 i am so glad I got to reflect on my friendship problem 🙏

night heron
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I do my best to live that way

pale elbow
pale elbow
# night heron I do my best to live that way

i wanna say i am proud of you, when I as ur age i didnt even
come close thinking as well as you do now

I hope you always continue to find strength in being good despite the difficulties that come along with it 🙏

night heron
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Thank you so much hugheart

pale elbow
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that concludes my thread, i ran out of social battery for now and I gotta go recharge 💓 I feel so verrryyyy happy to have spoken with ya'll ✨best wishes towards all your endeavors!

night heron
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This was a great convo, I hope you have an amazing rest of your day <3