#okay I know it’s bad BUT I DON’T WANNA HEAR THAT I JUST NEED TO FIX IT NOW

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cold cloud
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hey hyper

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well

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it seems like you're handling multiple emotions at the same time

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do you miss them or do you miss the feeling?

solid moth
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Your feelings are definitely valid you shouldn't be too harsh on yourself for having disorganized thoughts we are human after all. Instead of looking at the relationship like a mistake maybe try shifting it over to a more positive mindset, for example ask yourself what did you learn from this and how did you grow as a person!

solid moth
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I'm so sorry for whats happened to you, I want you to realize that your feelings that were manipulated isn't necessarily a reflection of who you are as a person but rather who they are for hurting you.

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Whats happened already isn't something that you can take back, but the future and present is something you can change. You seem to have spoke alot about him but you should take your own life into account too, think about what is it that you want from this situation. From what I read from the threads above it seems you have alot of conflicting thoughts. Separation isn't easy but I promise you with time life will change.

wise terrace
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sounds like you got manipulated

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it happens, you’ll move on once you’ll accept all the lies that he told you

wise terrace
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can i be really direct?

nimble comet
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Oh god that was an emotional rollercoaster I can't lie hard to feel sympathy when you've been cheating but try focusing on yourself going on forward

solid moth
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Aoki I don't know where you're from and what laws you are governed by but a 16 and 24 age gap is kind of concerning, whether his feelings were positive for you, you should still take into account that you are a young a developing brain. From what I've read he gave you closure and the explanations you've asked for, and to answer your question its not really your fault for still caring, it's only been 2 months. Definetely allow yourself more time to heal, it's okay to ruminate on the thoughts you don't always have to label them good or bad.

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Could I ask what is it you truly want? Like do you want to try again, did you want to stray away from this relationship, like what is your end desire?

solid moth
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Why do you want to try again, and also why do you think its a bad idea?

wise terrace
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he’s probably a creep that is interested in younger girls and he acted like the perfect boyfriend the whole time to use you even thought he knew that he was wrong and that the thing that you two had could never work because of the age gap

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when he finally accepted it he went to another girl

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don’t go back to him, he’s just trying to manipulate you

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like he probably did for a long time

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not saying you’re guillible or anything, but i know for a fact that it’s easy to trust a person that you love deeply

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and i think he just wants to take advantage of you

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you seem like a sweet person, it would be terrible to watch all the love you can give go to a person that doesn’t deserve it

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don’t feel bad

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if a 24 y.o. man is down to do dirty stuff with a 16 y.o. he doesn’t deserve simpathy

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also another personal advice

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don’t engage in online relationships

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it always ends up badly

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it’s wrong to think it this way

ruby adder
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Actually idk what I did but I definitely did something to make him do it

wise terrace
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it’s like a r4pe victim blaming herself cuz she was dressed in a certain way

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it’s not your fault

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it’s his fault for not controlling himself

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if he didn’t want to do it then he wouldn’t have done it

ruby adder
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I guess so yeah

ruby adder
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I didn’t even mean to do it

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Now that I think abt it I actually made it clear I didn’t want that kind of relationship at the beginning

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And I was like “I think of you like an older cousin who gives great conversations yk”

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And then he was like ew no I’d rather be like a hot teacher or something

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Which made me think I was js being weird and then uh

wise terrace
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so lemme think

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he made clear that he didn’t want anything

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but then he flirts with you

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makes sense

ruby adder
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…

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Okay uh

wise terrace
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i’m just saying he’s been acting like the good guy

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when he’s not

ruby adder
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Shit I totally got manipulated

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Oh my days

wise terrace
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well at least now you got the right image of him

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it will be easier for you to leave him behind

solid moth
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Respectfully, Kind of sounds like lingering attachment and a need for validation. Are you in the right headspace for a relationship? Like full transparency, it's best to do some self reflection beforehand.

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I also second gus you should be careful especially being a minor interacting with a grown man, stay safe

ruby adder
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I don’t get any social interaction these days and my relationships with my family members are all bad

ruby adder