#Black sheep of the family

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tough mist
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Hi my name is ace,I'v been through black sheep of the family for those you don't know black sheep is essentially a sheep that is outside of the main sheep group,which is family in this case like how my family members would take their anger,their frustration on me for the smallest things I do so it hurt and upset me really badly,and I had to hide my pain and anger on my self in order to survive,my relatives are toxic and judgmental about me and like to shove around me,show their anger and frustration on me and it really impacted me and my mental health from really young,like how when I so the smallest mistake they always blame me first instead of my brother,younger and cousins even though they clearly done bad things so I always the blame and took the blame my self it become a mentality where no body love me or understand me,so I usually find people who truely cared about me,they always say "ohh it's your fault for doing this" and I always trying to explain my self for not doing that get the blame that I don't derseve and they like to call me the scape goat all the time claiming it's my fault all the time

olive sparrow
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I can relate to you so much Ace, I always feel like the child that's getting the blame everytime and i know how that must feel.
It would always be hard to have self-control on your anger especially when something you didnt do get's blamed on you everytime.

tough mist
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That's true

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When I justified Im right I'll always get yelled or scolded more often because I'm just defending my rights on how I argue with my mom,because she is started it and she vicime blame and got the attention of my brother and I explained my rights and they disagree,so I was so upset and have a mental breakdown

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They always be grateful,even though I spoke out against they always say "Be gratefull when I raise you" it's just toxic ego pride to justified

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I learnt to not get involve in still sill arguments they are so pointless,if I denefed I'm right I'll always get wrong anwsers

olive sparrow
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Parents will always think that your talking back to them even when your not trying to start anything. It's really unfair that they get to be the only ones talking. So you just started shut yourself off from speaking up for yourself. They should really learn that their kids arent trying to disrespect them when we learn to use our voices.

compact heath
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Hey Ace, not feeling valued in your family is legit the biggest source of depression and anxiety for anyone. It’s literally how we are supposed to survive this world- by being loved and cared for by blood relatives. I’m sure that is so hard. I hope you are able to get some distance from them eventually and find your chosen family as an adult one day. There are people out there for you Ace! But if you are stuck with this family right now and maybe you don’t have a lot of compatibility with them, it probably sucks 🙁 just wishing you the best in this human life! 💕

tough mist
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Thx guys

tough mist
olive sparrow
olive sparrow
tough mist
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Like for Instances when I disagree they got more upset

olive sparrow
tough mist
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Kind of tre

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True

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As if they wanted full respect,no boundaries have respect me

olive sparrow
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Yes, well still i wish you the best in the future and hope you can finally use your own voice, if you need anything, no need to hesitate and tell anyone

tough mist
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Alright then

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Thx though atleast Im not alone in this whole

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World

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For having this issue

olive sparrow
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Ofc your not alone we all have our problems in life and that TOTALLY normal

compact heath
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Yeah @tough mist you are definitely not alone 💗 this is so common. Parents by nature can be so controlling and mean to kids when they don’t do exactly what they want, and now that you’re not just a little kid you have your own ideas of what you want and it’ll probably be like this til you move out and stuff. Hang in there!

fathom prairie
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kinda racist tbh

tough mist
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This channel is not promoting racistsm or sort of like that rather it's a conditioning of being an outcast