#20 M unfulfilled in a relationship with 20 F need advice on next steps. Couples therapy or breakup?

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plush cedar
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I've been with this girl for 2 years now, and over the last 2 months, I've just felt so unwanted and needy. It started when she started working. She's been really different since we started. She came out of a manipulative and lowkey abusive relationship and then hopped right into another relationship with me, and it started horribly, but has been balancing out until the start of this summer. Because of her past trauma, shes very unexpressive of her love and closed off with her feelings. She used to compliment me everyday and was physically intimate with me, and she could never buy gifts for me because she is financially bad so she made me handmade gifts last year. This year she forgot my birthday and a couple other important days. I've communicated this many times to her, that her lack of emotion, and her lack of giving me time and commitment has hurt me. She constantly chooses to hang out with her friends over me. Literally today, she is travelling an hour to comfort a friend who had her heart broken over a 1 month situationship. I told her I've felt horrible and would love if she picked up my call to talk, but she told me she was on call with her friends and couldnt leave because she did that with her ex and her friends slowly shut her out of their lives cuz of it and this trauma makes it where shes scared to leave the call. Idk what to say

plush cedar
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Anyone down to talk!

calm falcon
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hey man, it looks like your gf and you need to think about what you want from a relationship and sit donw to talk about it without demanding things.

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its important to remember that no one owes the other anything. It does however not justify neglecting your partner.