I feel broken being aroace

[regal dirge]

I can’t stop thinking abt this and it’s really getting to me I just don’t feel normal like I said in the title I feel “broken” and why i say this is I am aroace and I know I am but I just feel like there is something wrong with me, all my friends are always talking abt crushes and are starting to date, and I just feel like I’m missing a part of my teenage years by not dating or getting crushes like “normal” people.. so ya I’m just trying to accept that I’ll just always be like this but it’s just not fair, I want to be “normal”… dose anyone else feel this way

I feel broken being aroace

[urban fable]

Hii im also aroace and i used to feel the exact same way(still do sometimes). And i sometimes question if aroace is even a real thing and that im not just making it up bc im broken. Im also scared of my future bc i dont want to be in a relationship but my parents and other people will expect me to.

My friends also find it weird that ive never had a crush but i dont want to lie.

[regal dirge]

Thank you, before I knew I was aroace and I was still figuring things out I would get squishes (not know what they were at the time) and would mistake them for crushes. And then when I explained to my friend that how I experience crushes they just said that it’s not a crush that’s just me wanting to be friends with them. So I did research and found that aroace best describes me. Because I don’t have the desire to go in a relationship or do sex that stuff just makes me cringe. I just wanna have a deep platonic bound with someone.

[regal dirge]

Same, I’m scared if I come out to my parents they are gonna think I’m “broken” but this is just how I work. I feel guilty and I get jealous of people who tell me abt there crushes for example one of my friends told me she get butterflies when she sees her crush, and I’m like this can’t be fr rn, but apparently it happens to a lot of people. also I feel like I’m letting people down, when I was still trying to figure myself out I knew I was asexual and told one of my friends (no longer friends with them) who had a crush on me, they started crying bc they thought I said aroace and that made me feel bad bc I was questioning if I was aroace, so I felt trap like I can’t come out to anyone, and I had people have crush’s on me I told them I was aroace and continue to do weird shit around me and act like a pick me towards me. And I just more recently, came out to my closest friend abt being aro and she was like oh, and I could tell she was sad (I already knew she had a small crush on me) but after she accepted me we are very close.

[urban fable]

i didnt really believe my friends abt having crushes and feeling butterflies and even thought they were kinda weird untill i realised that i was the weird one. Ive never even came out to anyone bc i know they wont even know what it means. But im very proud of you for coming out to people and congrats for becoming closer to your friend after coming out even if it made her a bit sad.

[regal dirge]

Thank you, It makes me happy knowing someone else goes through this, and gets how I feel. Like none of my Friends irl understand