Hello, I am Japper I'm 16 years old and I'm not here to self diagnose but Its been really tough on me. Let me explain: So for the past year I've been talking to this girl lets name her Sara and me and Sara are kinda complicated so i won't foccuss on that but I've always felt anxious when we didn't text like I did something wrong and around a week ago we had a big fight and since then I felt a big knot in my stomache I wake up at strictly 6 AM and feel sick all day, I told her about it and did some research and It said it might be Anxious attachment style, I tried some steps to calm down as It said and it somewhat worked, but still every time we don't talk a message seems off or shes quiet I feel sick and I start overthinking and my mind spirals out of control, I really want to fix whatever this is because its slowely destroying me and I really dont know what to do anymore
#I think i have anxious attachment style
edgy plume
icy meteor
maybe try doing things that u like more often whenever u feel anxious to try and calm ur mind a bit or get ur mind off it for a while and when u start overthinking or feeling anxious again u can try and give urself some positive thoughts even if they arent a lot like try telling urself maybe shes busy or sleeping or shes tired atm if shes acting a bit drier than usual
u can also try and communicate with her if shes being dry and see if theres something wrong
edgy plume
Ive already been hanging out with friends more, been trying to escape it, taking deep breaths, reassuring myself, but in moments like these when I'm alone behind my PC with nothing to do It really eats away at me, Ive told her i feel this way and that lifted a huge weight off my shoulder, but today I woke up feeling bad and anxious, she texted late and we havent talked all day, yesterday she told me she was thinking about alot of stuff and we didnt talk much we called for a bit but that was it, today just nothing, which is understandable since it was her sisters birthday but the anxiety is just unbearable in moments like this and I really just want to heal, fix it even tho It wont be instant I want to be the best version of myself for her
icy meteor
ik its super hard to stop urself from overthinking especially when ur alone with ur thoughts with nothing to do but js remember its not ur fault u didnt do anything wrong love is hard and it takes a lot of effort to not lose urself in the process but from what im hearing so far ur super caring and an amazing bf and she probably loves u a lot and ur doing amazing with dealing with it so far which will help u heal faster and also when u guys havent texted all day maybe u should take the first step and text her first if itd help
edgy plume
Thank you so much, you don't know what this means to me. Since the big fight we had Ive been trying my best and yes we did talk today, just briefly I said good morning and she said it back, I asked how she slept and shes been offline since, shes been online on steam every now and again, but before i wrote here I told her i missed her alot and I hoped she enjoyed her sisters birthday. I truly hope she will text me back tonight so we can talk, I miss her alot and the anxiety is better now but still lingering in the background
icy meteor
ur trying ur best and ur giving everything u can and thats honestly all that matters and its a good sign that shes replying even after the fight
edgy plume
I'm alot calmer now, but I just dont want it to get worse, I hope we talk tonight or either tomorrow, I just wan't to fix all of this and forget it
icy meteor
hopefully she will text u which she probably will cause u told her u miss her and u talked abt ur feelings before so im sure she understands where ur coming from
edgy plume
Thank you, I truly hope she will and I can tell her how i feel and me and her can talk about it, but ill see tomorrow otherwise
icy meteor
gl i hope it goes as best as it can go