The idea of you being the problem would be odd considering the fact that this is something millions of people go through everyday, all the time, including myself.
#Why is making genuine friends so difficult for me
vocal jetty
Friends are just hard. Especially true friends. It has to be someone you relate to and you two have to have enough in common or like each other enough to want to maintain a friendship. I think it’s kind of rare. And online friends is a little different from in person friendships, you can’t really go out with online friends but you can still do things together. Like go and watch the same movie, etc
kind shell
Video game friends arent real friends, its just a person that you happen to play a video game with - no connection, once the gaming stop noone reaches out, or if they do the conversation never goes anywhere - and how could it? It was build on just playing a game together, not real connection.
Like Rue said above this is literally what tons of people go through at some point, you have to get a real personality and competence for yourself, actually go out there and improve - if you wont the people you will find are just surface level, no real depth, which leaves you no real way how to really connect with them.
By personality I dont mean identity either, personality is a result of the process of peronal improvement. Iam not heading to the conclusion that you should join the mainsteam self-improvement wave either, there are a lot of problems with it if you just grind or want external succes whatever. Honestly just try to be a better person, in a humble and honest way.
That requires a lot of time and planning, finding hobbies or developing the ones you alredy have. Best way to bond and actually connect with people is through hobbies - that build actual competence and integrity of character because you do them. This is why video games dont count, its really mostly just a passive activity - and dont worry iam aware of competitive ones, ive been a die hard LOL player for about 4 years and it lead nowhere, if you face it popular gaming has almost no transference to real life, which is what you actually need for good improvement. Games are mostly just a hedonistic-ego or just relax activity.
"Real friends" are rare because people are generally utterly incompetent in having them, if you look around very rarely do people put real effort and mutual work in relationships, they just drift about and let random stuff just happen most of the time, sometimes they plan to do something together here and there- the problem is, people just always ignore that and attribute it to "they are lucky to have such friends" if they see people with more quality relationship.