this is life

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i suspected her feeling insecure about my intelligence.

so i ‘responded’ with this:

true deep thinkers or the characteristic of intellectuality would cause the tall poppy syndrome to occur in others, especially the self-absorbed, superficial and narrow minded..

Gustave Flaubert: “one becomes a critic when one cannot be an artist, just as a man becomes a stool pigeon when he cannot be a soldier”.

very opinionated folks that can’t resist the urge for the unwarranted (negative criticism) of others — even though there is something that witnesses with them inwardly about this trait — would normally not have an understanding/essential comprehension of the said and as a result are unable to shed this negative trait.

but here is a concise insight: often than not, the tall poppy syndrome/critical behavior in people are symptoms of:

insecurity
negative self-preservation
flawed coping mechanism
resentment
jealousy

interpretation: these attitudes are largely a reflection of certain underlying psychological conditioning of the critical individual..

at least it is not a clinical trait to be critical of others and the cure might just simply be growth; self or assisted psychosocial education, for improved social relationships..

sometimes it would take some level of growth to be able to essentially accept the fact of another individual’s make-up, uniqueness or what makes them tick.

but still, que sera, sera.

let’s have a library date.
where we borrow the same books.
and read…
and let’s play a game
where as you notice a word you don’t know the meaning,
you ask me first.
and if i don’t know the meaning,
we explore the word together;
where as i notice a word i don’t know the meaning,
i ask you first.
and if you don’t know the meaning,
we explore the word together.

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this is life

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she sent this to me in form of a text image:

Introverts don’t hate people, they hate drama. Stress. Conflict. Nonsense that lowers their whole vibe. That’s why they don’t argue. That’s why they don’t talk. That’s why they keep their circle small and life private. They’re simple people. And all they want is peace and good.

and asked me ‘if it is true’.

so, i responded with this:

this’s somewhat a plain way of informing against the convenient opinion that makes introverts to be perceived as having misanthropic tendencies, ‘cause they’re known to avoid places, people or things that they might judge as mundane, overstimulating or energy-draining..

that being said, i’d say that most of what is written there would not pass as analytically correct: for example, introverts do not essentially shy away from conflicts, arguments… it has even been pointed out that some introverts would play the devil’s advocate just to keep a debate or argument ongoing, as long as it satisfies their interest.

additionally, it’s some kind of misconception that introverts don’t talk. introverts are just disinclined to small talks.. you’d find them really expressing themselves when they consider an engagement to be meaningful, when it’s on a topic that really interests them or when there’s some kind of mental connection… at the absence of all of these, the introvert will naturally take a quite reserved position. making it convenient for the outside observer to posit them as non-talkers..

so, introversion & extraversion i’d say are just a way to primarily identify the elemental energy pathways/motivations of individuals; there are other traits that also informs other individual human inclination.

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she asked me, ‘why atheism?’..

i responded that:

i’ve actually been leaning towards agnosticism quite recently. but generally — either agnosticism or atheism — it’s just because i felt the pure, unindoctrinated human experience and nature is largely incongruous with the reality of a transcendent being that the mainstream religions are trying to portray..