frail lichen
My friend has recently been opening up to my girlfriend a lot with his own problems and other personal things. It started as just him asking about advice in his own relationship but it’s just been getting more and more personal as he even came out as bisexual to her before anybody else. Not only this but he’ll pick her up and take her places to just talk and stuff. He’s shown up to her house in the middle of the night to hangout and other things of the sort. When we are all three together it seems that she even gives him more attention than me in many ways.
Now this had me questioning things and I’ve gotten pretty jealous of this connection they’ve built and I’ve been honest to my girlfriend about how I feel, but she’s just reassured me that it’s completely platonic, but I still feel jealous when they are together privately and even when I’m around. She’s made me feel really bad about feeling this way and I don’t even want to bring it up again because I don’t want to lose her.
My girlfriend tells me that she like hanging out with him so much because he just can understand her better because she is also bisexual, but when I ask her to try and help me understand things better she just brushes it off like I’m not even trying to do better.
I just feel like I’m completely failing as a boyfriend even though I’m trying my hardest. She has assured me that I’m a great boyfriend and that she just needs someone that understands her better. I want to believe everything she is saying but it’s really hard.
I’m sorry if some of this doesn’t make sense. It’s hard to put into words, but I would really appreciate any advice or guidance.
frail wadi