My mother doesn't care about my ED | The Therapy Center | Page 1

elfin tinsel Jun 1, 2025, 3:21 AM

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My mom doesn't care about my eating disorder whatsoever.
She says it's a good thing I'm losing weight. I felt like passing out today at the walmart and I called her for help to drive me home and she said she was "not happy with me at all." I'm a full grown adult btw. She said she was watching a movie with my sister and she was busy. Is a movie more important then your child? Yes apparently. She's also been seen by my sister talking shit behind my back about me. My boyfriend is very supportive but he's all I really have rn. I need some advice to get through this time if anyone has any.

TLDR: My mom's a meanie head and won't take my eating disorder seriously.

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burnt cosmos Jun 1, 2025, 3:23 AM

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I think this goes a little further beyond being mean, it's outright neglectful.

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I'm sorry for what you're going through, your mother doesn't seem to comprehend the magnitude of the things you are going through right now.

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Obvious questions, are you currently seeking counselling or therapy for the ED?

elfin tinsel Jun 1, 2025, 3:24 AM

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no im noy

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not

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i have a therapist but she doesn't specialize in ED

burnt cosmos Jun 1, 2025, 3:25 AM

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Do you think you'd benefit from seeing someone who knew more about ED?

elfin tinsel Jun 1, 2025, 3:25 AM

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i think so

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i dont know how to get help

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im on my parents insurance

burnt cosmos Jun 1, 2025, 3:25 AM

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You could consider speaking to your therapist about exploring ED related counselling.

elfin tinsel Jun 1, 2025, 3:25 AM

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ive asked my mom for an ed specialist before

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she said i dont have an eating disorder and dont really need one

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i eat one meal a day at max btw

burnt cosmos Jun 1, 2025, 3:26 AM

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Gosh, that's awful.

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If it's not too difficult, could you tell me your compulsions?

elfin tinsel Jun 1, 2025, 3:26 AM

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i really don't know why she doesn't care. shes so hot and cold with me

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basically i think im fat

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and her telling me i dont have an eating disorder kinda feeds into it

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because its like ill make myself worse so she helps me

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sounds bad ik but idk how to get over it

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and its also a control thing.

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ive been struggling with mental health for a very long time now, its not new, i dont know why shes acting like it is

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it might be because im a bit overweight that she doesnt believe me, but thats because of the medication im on

burnt cosmos Jun 1, 2025, 3:28 AM

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have you tried speaking to her about her concerns around ED?

elfin tinsel Jun 1, 2025, 3:28 AM

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i have

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she doesnt care

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she calls me disrespectful

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idk how im supposed to respect a bad mother

burnt cosmos Jun 1, 2025, 3:29 AM

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I'm having difficulty understanding sorry

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she supports the concept of other mental health issues but not ED?

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because you've mentioned medication

elfin tinsel Jun 1, 2025, 3:30 AM

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yes

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its stupid

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she just picks and chooses what she wants to believe about my mental health

burnt cosmos Jun 1, 2025, 3:31 AM

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have you considered sitting her down with your therapist so you can come to some sort of agreement

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maybe she'll be more reasonable if it comes from a professional

elfin tinsel Jun 1, 2025, 3:32 AM

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thats a really good idea but idk if she'll agree to do that

burnt cosmos Jun 1, 2025, 3:32 AM

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perhaps disguise it as a quarterly review of progress

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and get her to mention it as a new development

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