#Advice on moving past a partners past

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mortal thistle
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Hello! I have been dating this girl for a couple months and it was going amazing. I had never felt how I felt before and knowing her for so little made me feel like I had known her my whole life. Around 2-3 months in she opened up about her past and it was quite promiscuous. On our first real date her ex FWB, who she hadn’t slept with in 2.5 years at this point, called her and she answered. She said hello, I’m on a date, goodbye. She kept it short and didn’t carry it on but it really sparked an anger in me. I love her but for the first time in my life I can’t push past her promiscuous past. I have done it for other partners and my own friends…but not this girl who has made me feel so seen. It has recently developed into anger, resentment, and feeling like I can’t trust a single word. Why is that? What can I do? Also, her past is also full of ALOT of trauma surrounding sex that she omitted until about a month or two in. For some context: My last relationship was 4 years and ended with my gf at the time cheating on me…I found her in bed coming home early from work. What can I do chat?

lusty oasis
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Honestly the best thing to do is communicate with her about this. If she trusts you enough to open up with her traumas, you owe it back to her to at least trust her and express your feelings. Don't word it as if you're accusing, start it with something simple as "hey can we talk? I've been thinking recently and I love you alot, but I keep overthinking and I want us to work. do you have any time either now or later that we can talk about it?"

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something small like that

mortal thistle
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We have and she has sworn up and down on her experiences, details she didn’t HAVE to give, and etc but it’s just this nagging piece of my subconscious

lusty oasis
mortal thistle