#ion even know

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hardy pine
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js want some advice on my situation or just someone elses opinion on it. So like ion really got any rl friends, which yeah it bothers me, but I live in some small town and go to school elsewhere so I can't really change it. Anyway so I js kinda wanna know how I can distance myself from like a group of people. I js hang with them in the breaks in school, only got in the same class as most of them last year, they all knew eachother before. I don't hate them or anything, but they always be planning shit without me and some, which I mean it's their friend group so fair enough, but If I know they ain't really my friends outside of school, why hang with them? Thing is js like they're almost all in my class, so I can't just start doing something else during break, that'd be noticed by them (and other people in my class) and highkey it'd be kinda weird, js stopping to hang out w. them for no reason. rn im on atleast alright terms with everyone in my class and I REALLY don't wanna risk that. It be better If I had an excuse, something else to do during breaks like other people to hang w. but I don't got that and they know so i can't js start pretending. There's other people in my class that are kinda nice, but I mean i've known them all for a bit and even If I started hanging with some of them it wouldn't turn into a real friendship just the "gotta chill with this guy in school because he ain't got friends" kinda situation and I know neither me nor them would want that. I'd js be fine with one friend, aslong as he's actually my friend even outside of school and shit. Never really had that, even all my preschool friends were fake (which is honestly really weird, that's gotta be on me somehow). I just don't know what to do with this situation, like ion wanna waste my time hanging with people that don't want me there, but I don't wanna risk any of my status in the class either, I worked hard for that shit, Ion wanna make myself a target again. And I beg you please, if you're going to reply please reply with actual concrete advice not some "don't hang with them of you don't want to" or something, like no shit i figured that out too, but I can't just like do something else in breaks without an excuse, y'all don't get it. Anyway if anyone does actually reads this thanks ig be_catheart

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hardy pine
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tribal sky
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Honestly the only suggestion I can give is waiting it out
You meet friends when you don't even expect to meet them
Don't completely get distant from the people you're talking to right now as it might create a very lonely situation which is quite awkward too and that might bother you in school
Not every connection you make is supposed to be deep and meaningful
Interacting with those group of friends in school will make you learn others experiences and also learn casual conversations which will help you when your real friendship is supposed to happen

Don't be like myself and get distant from people it doesn't do anything good in the long run especially since those friends don't exactly bully you or anything
You're just not in their inner circle which is alright
You will have your inner circle soon just have patience and work on yourself (working on yourself is the most attractive thing you can do)

And you're overthinking about reaching out to others
Nobody really thinks that he's here because he has no friends really , if you feel ready and are in a decent mood no harm in just reaching out casually sometime

hardy pine
tribal sky
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It won't form connections or as such but it will start conversations atleast and it may open doors to friendships as you'll actually be helping people sometimes with their work
And friendships are all about helping each other in little ways
If only small talk is the basis of a friendship with no real exchange of helps it usually ends up getting dry after a while

hasty ginkgo
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like still hang w them during breaks but then sometimes say i got work to catch up on