#moving on...

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low elm
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for context, im still in school and am a drummer in a band. Before the rs im posting about, i was in an physically abusive rs for 8 months in 2023, she hit me alot and called me useless

i meet this new girl in 2024, she confessed to me and got into a rs w me

I spent my whole December working hard for her, I spent day and night working to the point I wouldn't go home, would sleep outside alot. I wanted to be the best boyfriend I could as I knew i lacked certain things and wasnt the best looking either. I just wanted to make her happy, I only thought of her. Even when I was working tons of hours a day, I still found time to go on dates with her, messaged her back within minutes and even call her when she wanted me too.

I will be putting in point form to make the read faster haha

-Jan came along and i ended up in the hospital for overworking
-My bday is in Jan, she didnt wish me happy bday but told me she missed her ex on my bday
-she promised she wouldnt leave but ghosted me for a week
-she started scolding me and blaming for getting upset
-she cried to her friends about what was happening but didnt tell them what she did wrong

  • her friends all were against me, protecting her, saying I was dangerous and all sorts
    -on Jan 28, We talked and we settled things
    -I gave her lots of gifts and stuff i was planning since Dec every friday leading up to Valentines
    -she was still msging her ex and posting secret things about her ex, reposting tiktoks
  • i suprised her with concert tickets on Feb 7 and Starbucks giftcards totalling $100
    -She didnt go for the concert, cancelling last minute
  • the day after the concert, I had a family issue so I didnt go to school, on the same day she posted her hanging out with her ex then msged me if i wanted to hang the next day, I knew what was happening, she wanted to break up
  • When i assessed the situation, she told me she would try her hardest not to lash out at me
    ( ill continue the last part in the messages)
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we then broke up on Valentines day, She said things like " its your fault for staying even tho im treating u like shit"

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i told her about me working she said " so what? i didnt ask u to do that, you put in effort or not, its worthless " then said "after we breakup ur no longer my responsibility, go k yourself, I dont care"

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then now shes spreading rumours saying im mentally unstable and emo and that im playing victim to people and not telling people what she did wrong. Im also a quiet person so i dont speak out. Ive just been depressed the past few weeks and have been struggling alot. I have to see her everyday and its tiring. I did everything I could and it wasnt enough.. I didnt even get a birthday wish while i was in the hospital...

left raptor
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you were disrespected SO BADLY

low elm
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TRUST ME IM TRYING BRO nooo

left raptor
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Good that you are

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Keep trying

pearl hinge
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@low elm you should have broken up on the day she miss HER ex IN YOUR DAMN BIRTHDAY

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You should have broken up when she said things to you she shouldn't have

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You accept the disrespect bro toy shouldn't have