my boyfriend said that we should take a break because of how i treated him. i wasnt the best and i wont sugarcoat anything i was bitchy and a horrible communicator. he said once i can prove ive gotten better than we can start talking about getting back together, however i dont know where to start. we still text eachother and see eachother in school but its just so empty and soulless. how do i communicate better and how do i stop getting mad at little things? how do i stop my emotions from ruling my life? i hurt him alot, and i just cant shake the feeling that i messed up and all hope is gone. how do i heal whilst keeping contact? is this really a break? any advice or criticism is welcomed.
#i dont know what to do?
open wasp
i feel pathetic i begged and begged for him to stay with me, begged for a break i begged for anything but breaking up, and when he agreed it just felt weird? he just suddenly changed his mind and told me to stop speaking about it.
hollow schooner
first of all, give his space what he asks for. Even though you're still talking, he's watching to see growth, not just words. So try not to bring up the relationships constantly. Give him some space. Show him through action, not pressure. Start working on yourself not just for him but for yourself. Questions yourself. Why do you get mad at little things? How about starting writing down your triggers? What set you off? What emotions hide underneath your anger hurt? Fear? Or rejection?
Communication is the key. So work on communication even if you're not perfect. Dont try to be perfect. Be clear. Ssy what you feel without attacking. Lose your pride down by showing you listing without interuppting. Repeat what he says to show you really heard him. Own your mistakes without being so defensive. Let go of begging start building your self-respect. Begging comes from fear of loss not love.