what should i do? is it cheating?

[red edge]

me and my boyfriend have been together in a long distance relationship for a little over a year and a few days ago he flew to come see me! we had the best 2 weeks of our lives + he decided to stay another week and one time at night i scrolled through his chats on discord and found this chat from July 15 (still together btw) and it’s him texting some 15 yo girl “want to roblox playdate” and i said to myself ok it’s good that he is able to talk to girls in a platonic way and not think of them as sexual objects but as i scroll i see he sent a picture of himself and then asked her to send one back? then she sent some TikTok and said she has a dirty mind and his response was “no worries me too” and that gave me the biggest ick of my life. she managed to mention she has a boyfriend near the end of the conversation but he didn’t say anything about me:( he says it nothing flirty or anything like that but i can’t let it go and i love this man with my entire soul and he does too but i don’t think i can trust him again. i genuinely planned my future with him and he is so perfect in every other aspect but i just can’t stop thinking about it. my friends tell me to do what my heart desires but i need an objective viewpoint🙏

[earnest geode]

Nah this is definitely not okay. Not only is he texting 15 year old for "roblox playdate" the pictures make it 1000x worse. Do what you want but this person definitely is doing you dirty. Why not try to talk to him about it?

[red edge]

i am really trying to understand why he did that and he says it was in a vc with other people and didn’t think anything of it but i just wont believe him. he really is my biggest fan and really makes sure i feel loved and appreciated + won’t mind if i go through his phone or something like that. i feel like the right thing to do is breakup with him since he asked a 15 year old for a picture of herself so even if it’s platonic it’s still super super weird but he is still the love of my life and the best man i’ve ever met (and i don’t like most of em)

[earnest geode]

Nah bro it's weird af

it feels like losing someone close to you rn but just think long term

even if it's being "friendly" (it's not) There are boundaries which cannot be crossed

[red edge]

it’s was 7 months ago and nothing happened since then so i can’t stop feeling that i may be making a mistake

but you are right

boundaries were crossed i am seriously hurt

but do i need to cut him from my life

or let time do it’s thing

?

[earnest geode]

if you can forgive him and you guys can move on from this that's up to you