I need help like badly.

[deft badger]

Me and my bf have been dating for a year now and we’ve been on bad terms 80% of our relationship. We both love each other a lot but im the problem. I need to change by June is what he told me and if I don’t he’ll break up with me. I love him so much and my mental health isn’t helping me at all. I want to do better for him and I need to change everything. He told me that I’ve gave others more than what I gave him so, he said I don’t call him nicknames, Im always dry, I don’t communicate well, and that I don’t give him reasons to trust him. I’ve done my best to do better for him. When we’re dry, he says I’m the reason why because I can’t keep a conversation up and he says that he’s the one who keeps them up, but I also am the one who does and I try to keep a conversation with him, but it goes dry and I can’t keep a conversation up when he’s dry while I’m trying he gives dry responses like ok/okay/K, cool,that’s cool,That’s nice, wow, And so much more. It upsets me to see him respond to when I’m trying to talk to him. And it just upsets me so when I’m upset, I get really dry. I’m trying to learn how to cope with that into not be dry when he is not get so upset easily and I’m trying to change myself to be better for him and I just need tips on how I can communicate better how I cannot be dry how I can be able to call him nicknames to be able to show him how much I love him. I just need to learn how to love someone properly because my past relationships have been the same and I have never been able to love someone properly because it’s been toxic and a bunch of arguing. That’s all I know about love and I really love him a lot and I wanna show him how much but I can’t when I’m like this and I don’t know how to love properly and I’ve told him that, but he doesn’t believe me because I lost his trust many many times and I wanna get it back

[wind aspen]

Him giving you a certain amount of time to “change”, and threatening to break up with you if you’re not as intimate as he wishes, is a huge red flag.

Change takes a lot of time, and him giving you such little time to change is very toxic to yourself, the relationship and your well-being. He should love and care for you, for how you are this second.

There shouldn’t be any kind of countdown until he breaks up with you, that alone is vial. And God knows how much he wants you to change until he is satisfied.

You are you, you aren’t his little puppet to play around with.

And if I’m being completely honest, you should break up with him. The main problem isn’t that you’re not good enough, it’s that you’re too emotionally attractched.

He is way too controlling, and you shouldn’t risk being with someone like him.

I can help you to learn how to cope and maybe be more engaging when having a conversation, but your relationship isn’t safe for your mental health, and it might even be one of the reasons why you’re not over-the-top enthusiastic.