Advice

[signal tapir]

Hello everyone,there is this girl I really like and basically,she knows I like her,however she hasn't confessed what she feels about me yet,she found out I like her through my friends,and I called like 2 weeks ago,to ask her out,she said yes and that she would call me later to arrange where we would go,but she never called,worth pointing out is that I asked out a month before that,also said yes and we actually did go out but she brought a friend,I am very confused on what she feels about me and I just cant help myself but be anxious,what do you guys think I should do?

And why is she reacting this way?

[merry shadow]

hey dw i get why ur anxious about this and i understand. from the way she's acting it sounds like she might not even be sure about what she wants. you deserve someone who's excited to spend time with you and makes it clear. if she really liked you back, it would most likely feel easier and more natural. maybe its best to give her space for now and focus on urself. if shes interested, she'll show it. u shouldnt have to chase after someone who's unsure what they want.

[signal tapir]

@merry shadow thank you for responding to me man,I really needed it,and I understand,but it just feels so hard to let go of someone that you have lots of feelings with,but still,I am not completely sure why is she acting like this but,I guess time will show right?

[merry shadow]

of course

if you dont mind

what kind of feelings do you feel for her

besides liking her obviously

[signal tapir]

I just feel like she is you know kind, approachable but,I feel like she is the one you know?,I am just stuck between hope and uncertainty

[merry shadow]

thats okay

but if im being honest

if shes having you feel this way before you guys even get together (if you do), i do think this will be a reoccuring issue in the future

[signal tapir]

Plus we will have a bad start right?

If we get together I mean

[merry shadow]

im not completely sure as i dont know much about your situation

but what do you want to do?

[signal tapir]

I mean she knows what she did wasn't right,and she probably will have to speak to me about this in person,I guess I will see how I go on from there

[merry shadow]

yes, i wouldn't make any decisions yet as it doesn't seem clear what she wants

[signal tapir]

It sucks man

[merry shadow]

i understand

can u explain like

what do u feel when u think of it not working out

ive dealt with something similar to this so im trying to figure out what's completely going on and then i can tell you what i would do

[signal tapir]

I mean,I feel bad,and I will feel bad if it doesn't end up working out,but at the end of the day I know it's her choice you know?,but right now,I feel like hope and disappointment are having a battle in my mind right now,cant really explain it

[merry shadow]

are you having like anxious thoughts about this?

is it consuming your thoughts?

[signal tapir]

Yes,but not all the time

[merry shadow]

ohh okay thats fine

just try and take your mind off of it

if it gets to a point where you start spiraling or you can't control the thoughts, i would recommend trying to tell yourself that however it goes, good or bad, you still have yourself and thats all that matters

just try not to get so worked up over the outcome

you'll be fine however it goes. if u need someone to talk to or just vent to im here

[signal tapir]

Thank you for everything man,I will try to take my mind off of her for now

[merry shadow]

of course. if anything else happens or you have any questions im here. you can always dm me too

[signal tapir]

Thanks

@merry shadow

[merry shadow]

hey

[signal tapir]

Hey so if you scroll down there is this raffaelle guy

Think you should talk to him

His girlfriend committed suicide like 2 hours ago

I dont really have it with words

And I don't want to say something that I shouldn't

[merry shadow]

it's not that i dont want to help him, it's just i dont want to give out information that isn't beneficial or will make things worse. i'm not completely sure how to help with that as im not really a professional at this. i decided to help you specifically because ive went through something very similar to what you're going through and i just wanted to help out

[signal tapir]

Ah I see your point

Sorry

[merry shadow]

no youre fine i understand

[signal tapir]

I just feel bad for the guy

Can't imagine what it's like

[merry shadow]

i do too but im sure someone will help out soon

one second

okay there

[signal tapir]

Nice

Hope the guy gets the help he needs

[merry shadow]

yeah

thats something thats a lot to deal with and i cant imagine what hes going through but i would honestly speak to a professional

thats a lot to process and get over

[signal tapir]

Yeah man

Well I have to head to bed now

It's been a pleasure talking to you man

[merry shadow]

of course, pleasure talking to you too. again, if anything happens or you need anything else im here

[signal tapir]

@merry shadow

[merry shadow]

hey

[signal tapir]

Hello man how are you?

I want to tell you something if you have time

So basically,we where out with friends,we were talking about out our zodiac signs out of fun,also I am a virgo she is a Gemini,we were in total 4 people,me,her and 2 of our friends,that went to hang out,and basically she tells me,that Virgo's and Geminis aren't really compatible in relationships but it doesn't matter since she is Gemini/virgo,Gemini being her sun sign,and virgo her rising sign

I think this was her way of indirectly saying that she wants us to get into a relationship,what do you think?

@merry shadow

She also remembers exactly what I was wearing like 2 days ago

[merry shadow]

i wouldnt look into things like that

even if shes throwing hints

[signal tapir]

Hm,ok,my question is like,If a girl said this to you,what would you have understood?

I just don't want to have misinterpreted her

[merry shadow]

honestly its up to u not me, if u wanna go for it and ask her then be my guest. if its truly what u want. and u shouldnt have to be guessing around like this

[signal tapir]

@merry shadow man Its so tiring,I have been trying so hard man and I have made lots of moves,and I am getting back responses but I am so tired,I guess I will just go for it

[merry shadow]

alr lemme know how it goes

[signal tapir]

@merry shadow will do,btw just learned that she had an ex

She is probably taking her time wanting to be sure

[fierce steppe]

Ah yea, often times people like to heal and depending on how bad their ex was, it could make entering a new relationship harder, as a fellow Michael I'm rooting for ya

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe thank you so much man,I mean she has mentioned the she is over it but you never know,but personally I believe she is a bit over it

[fierce steppe]

Yep

[signal tapir]

She has shown me that she likes me back in summary,heck even indirectly told me it but she doesn't want to move things forward??

[fierce steppe]

I'm goin thru a lil heartbreak rn I'll get back to ya, but rn, patience is key, don't rush it

[fierce steppe]

I know how you feel

I've been there

[signal tapir]

Like,I ask her out,she says yes and than like we don't go out

Or she brings a friend

@fierce steppe sorry for your heartbreak man hopefully everything will be ok

[fierce steppe]

Ik what you mean

This may sound dumb but I think you need to be dominant should I say, let her know you want a date, let her know what time, place, and if she doesn't show then you have your answer

On if she likes you or not

[fierce steppe]

I'm chill, my current circumstances are better then it was before, it's better to have the past 4 days be a lie then the past 4 months, trust me

Don't let her lead you on man, just in case she is

I had smth similar

She lead me on for 4 months

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe it's so frustrating because we both know we like each other but she doesn't want our friendship to become something bigger

For now

[fierce steppe]

How do you know she likes you? Like besides for her saying it has she shown any signs?

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe like she remembers exactly what I wore 2 days ago,she has winked her eye at me some times,I have asked her out twice,she said yes to both,first time she brought a friend,second time she said yes and that she will call me to say where we are going to meet but she never did

Like I am pretty certain she likes me but for some reason she doesn't want to take the necessary step forward

[fierce steppe]

Then you have to

Maybe she wants someone dominant or someone that would take charge

Either way, if your sure she likes you, you have to get it in order

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe so do you think I should ask her out again?

[fierce steppe]

Instead of asking her out to be ur girlfriend, jst ask her out to the movies or a lunch date

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe alright than man,thanks for all the help,heres hoping she says yes again

[fierce steppe]

Yep, but if she says yes, u need to then follow up with a plan

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe i know exactly where to take her, thinking of a very nice chill cafe,you know,with a bit of music

[fierce steppe]

W

[signal tapir]

Well,I asked her out,I told her in a funny way,like you owe me a cafe,(for the second time I asked her and she said she will call me but she didn't),and I said I was wondering if you want to go out on like Thursday,she said she will go out with friends then but we will definitely talk about when

We are going to go out together

[fierce steppe]

Try to find one, and if she still stand u up again then at that point I'd say just move on

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe definitely man,I will give her one last chance bro

[fierce steppe]

ja

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe

URGENT

My friend was hitting on her and they went out on a date,and she turned him down because he only wanted her for you know

I am gonna make my feelings clear to her

@merry shadow

She was playing with both sides

Am I taking a risk here?

[fierce steppe]

Yes

U are indeed

But risks need to be taken

Either way

You needa get some verification

Think about it

She went on a date with ur friend but not u?

Idk if she keeping u as a backup or smth, but u needa get it sorted out

[signal tapir]

Just found out it happened like 2 months ago,the day where she wasn't really sure if I liked her and I hadn't asked her out yet

[signal tapir]

Well I asked her out again,told her about it and said that I am way better than him,and said that we will go on a date

So nothing really new except me saying that I didn't like wanna pressure her into something she doesn't want

My friend also said that I have a baby face,was a bit fat and like said that I was lower than mid,I am 18 years old and I don't consider myself very fat,but idk

[fierce steppe]

Well u don't needa worry about that cuz, it's baby fat yk? Itll go away thru time

[signal tapir]

@fierce steppe oh alright thanks

[fierce steppe]

Mmm

Gl man

But let's be honest

If she takes too long then u gotta move on

Don't let someone drag you down when you can rise above

[signal tapir]

I actually texted her yesterday if she wanted to go out on a date with me at like 8 and she left me on read

So yeah its pretty much over

[fierce steppe]

Rip

U may be cooked man but gl

[signal tapir]

Thanks but it's very unlikely she likes me