So i think i have anxiety and ocd im not sure i dont wanna self diagnoze but my mental health has decresead since last year january and its only been getting worse and i would have little fights with my friends and they started to distance themselves from me and because of that i felt broken cuz why would they do that?And then i had a talk and they said that they also felt hurt because i was forcing them to hangout with me because they said my anxiety was irritating and i was irittating them and now they said they dont wanna hang out with me at all until i get better.So i just wanna ask is that normal for friends to not be ur friends and stop hanging around when literally the reason i went messed up like this is because i was alone?And then they did apologize for sayin that they talked behind my back but still i wish they understood i want to heal when im with them and that theyre for me?Isnt that not normal for friends to support you and be with u through ur worst mental health???
#Is it normal for friends to abandon u because of ur anxiety?
proven linden
distant vault
So i think i have anxiety and ocd im not sure i dont wanna self diagnoze but my ...
I would say that it depends
Friends are not a cure, nor a tool to help you
Of course they can be supportive
But you have to fight your anxiety by yourself for yourself
I don't think that we can your friends "friends", because friends don't talk behind the back
But maybe some of them are afraid to make it worse, so they keep some distance
You should talk about that with them, to make things clear
proven linden
I did and they said that for them its best we dont hangout but that just flat out hurt me
Cuz i was only getting worse when i was alone
But okay
proven linden
Idk where..
distant vault
Dude, you're on discord, you can find everyone everywhere
proven linden
Lol i mean yea but i need irl people more
distant vault
Oh
proven linden
Gonna be hard i live in eastern europe and theres not much to do
But ill try i guess
I feel like ill just be forcing myself into someone elses group
But i hope it works out i guess
proven linden
No i mean like idk if the hypothetically speaking the new people i meet i dont know if theyll want to hanogout with me since i would be a new person to then
Them
Yk?
Im like in third year of college and everyone my age already has a group of friends
Thats what i mean
distant vault
I understand
proven linden
And i dont want surface level friendships
distant vault
But I think you shouldn't think about that
distant vault
Why is it impossible?
proven linden
Well because prob everyone my age already has their close friends
distant vault
And?
proven linden
Well how can i be someones close friend if they already have enough friends
distant vault
Because there's no limit to close friends
Because if you match with someone else there's no reason that this person will reject you
You fit or you don't
proven linden
Yea ig
distant vault
It's simple as that