I have to live with my annoying mother my whole life now, i dont know how im gonna make it we argue everyday and she doesn't see that shes in the wrong, tbh shes just a 2-faced attention seeker, anyone know how to fix this? i really dont want her bs anymore, i just wanna leave.
#I cant stand her
late steppe
carmine basin
Parents tend to think that they should control you and are scared when they can't. Mom's in particular argue not for something logical a lot of times but with hidden agenda , for example to manipulate you into doing something later, or as payback for the way you talked earlier. Only way to counter this is love. You gotta be nice and respectful and don't talk back with irony
When u talk back momz think "wait, my own child doesn't respect me, i have to get control back" and this creates a loop of arguments for the sake of control, not for the sake of logical conclusion
late steppe
i feel if she cant respect me i shouldn't either, she treats me like shit, she silences me, she only cares for what other people think, she calls me names everyday just because of the way i dress, she said hurtful things like i wasn't her child so many times, i can feel that she only wants to see me in vain, i just wanna cut myself off and never see her face, i feel disgusted when i talk to her, she thinks i can easily just forget everything shes done, and she wont say sorry no matter what, even if she does somehow its COMPLETELY fake, she'll me yelling at me the next second. She keeps yelling at me for the slightest things, i don't know what this woman wants from me, i wont let time be an apology.
slow pine
My mother is the the same. I lost respect for her many years ago. She always plays the "poor me" card even when others are not talking about anything related to her. She demands control and respect but is very slow when it comes to basic social interactions. She is bipolar and refuses to seek help because "others should just accept her as she is" is the excuse she offers when it is brought up. She lost her parents when she was 12 and, as sad as that is, she constantly brings it up as an attempt to pull sympathy (it's used more as a weapon than anything else). My mother has a superiority complex but she is lacking in almost every category in life. She speaks badly about others behind their backs (even family) and fakes panic attacks when she is confronted about it. She is the type of person you wouldn't want children being around as she is highly unpredictable and aggressive when met with a conversation she is not in control of. How I handle this is isolation from her. You have to remember that she has no control over you at the end of the day. You can physically separate yourself as much as needed to maintain your own mental well-being. Being physically active keeps your spirits high and makes it easier to stay positive. People like that thrive on control because MISERY LOVES COMPANY. Not feeding into the toxicity of her is the best thing you can do to regain control. You might not quite be at the point where I am (I have lost all respect for my mother and simply do not see her as a reasonable person to spend energy on) but you will if things continue the way they have. 1 of 2 things happen with constant berating... you train weak people to cower and make them believe you are in control OR those people break and any relationship you have with them is severed (therefore giving control back to the person who was being mistreated). Choose your path.