I’m having a couple problems and they are all at the same time. 1 is that I started to really dislike myself and my body. I want to lose the body hair I have but I’m afraid my dad would comment on it and I’m afraid of it. I stopped wearing shorts altogether because of this. I don’t know how to tell my parents about this because I’m the past I’ve been called dramatic for “hating myself”. They are also putting lots of pressure on me for making a decisions for future schools and colleges. I really want to talk to somebody close about it but I’m really scared they will get scared for me or just call me dramatic. I feel like I’m slowly losing myself if that makes sense. The me I want to be is far from reach and I don’t like the person I am both in physical form and metal form. I’m not boy-ish enough for my dad and I feel like I’m just letting them down. I have thought about like leaving where I am or just all together but the issue is that I have people who will care and mourn. I feel like a burden both ways. When I’m alive. And if I wouldn’t be here.
I just don’t know where to start to better myself. Somebody please help me
#Needs help on where to start
oak turret
crude ruin
Your problems are JUST as important as anyone else's problems and you should not discourage yourself for feeling down just because someone out there may be hurting more than you are right now. You are still hurting.
The is YOUR reminder that no matter how many times you mess up, do something wrong, or work on something really hard and it isn't perfect, you are still doing something and your effort is appreciated everywhere.
Practice makes better, not perfect. Your work is amazing no matter the amount of little mistakes. don't be too hard on yourself man, we love your work!! 🫂🤍 and if your feeling lonely give me a friend request ok?
Remember you are not alone
Dont mind to friend me at any time
oak turret
Can I add onto what I need help with?
crude ruin
Yeah sure i dont mind if its to personal u can dm me privately my dms are always open
oak turret
I feel like a wreck because I feel like most things are my fault. I am an older child so it’s a first for my parents too. Recently I’ve been messing up more with stuff in life and I can’t get a grasp on things. I’m stuck in a mindset of I need help but my parents are expecting me to basically be an adult now even though I’m 16. There is just a ton going on I don’t know where to start
crude ruin
If u cant get a grasp its fine i used to be on ur level when i was younger things wouldnt go planned and alot of things would be bad il give u tips to help urself
It looks like you're going through some light seasonal depression, motivation might seem down and considering the fact you're quite young and just now moving in to high school, I have some tips to get through this a little smoother!
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Lowering screentime hours
{Social media platforms like TikTok, Instagram, Discord, Snapchat, etc. Are scientifically proven to be the main cause of extreme anxiety, depression and social disabilities.
{However; Small chats to new people online through games and normal text (Messenger or any messaging app) is completely okay as long as you give yourself plenty of breaks. -
Walks, Runs, Exercise
{Sometimes outside school may not be enough for your body to experience the outside, your body will feel gross or sometimes just hurt if you're not getting enough sun.
{To help this, Try organizing some unwinding time walks through your neighborhood once or twice a week to get those extra bits of sun, Your walk can last from 15 minutes to 2 hours even, as long as you feel refreshed and ready or done for the day afterwards. -
Dealing with Self Harm (All forms)
{Self Harm stems from MANY different thing and be a sign that your brain is in need of a break, wind down time or room for growth and change.
{To deal with SH thoughts or actions, While you feel your best, remove any sharp objects out of your room, house or out of easy to reach places in your home (placing them up high or even burying them away)
{If you have unbearable thoughts and your brain insists you ABSOLUTELY need to feel something, get a rubber band or a hair tie and put it on your wrist & pull it lightly until you're done.
{If you feel the need to fidget or do something to feel something, I suggest a picky pad, fidget of any sort, or even just punching/throwing a large and soft plushie of yours.