wanna change but idk how | The Therapy Center | Page 1

I don't know all the answers because I'm struggling with this too but you need to swallow your fear and be willing to put your soul out there. You need to learn to reach out even when you think people are busy. You need to be willing to accomidate other people's plans by working to be in their lives. Be genuine be supportive and when you feel choked up and unsure if you should put yourself out there, to say hi to your classmates and make small talk and such. Do so. Making mistakes is so much less of a big deal than being alone and not known by anyone. Get a dialog going, ask your classmates and strangers about themselves and pursue connections. When you're anxious about making new friends tell them (at least in collage idk what your highschool is like and if it's toxic). Take deep breaths understand that most people long for connection especially people our age, be genuine and dont be afraid to show bits of yourself to them as those little unique things about you are what connects you with the people youre looking for. The biggest hurdle is to get to a point of being comfortable with them once you get there everything else gets alot easier. being yourself, opening up, confrontng them when they hurt you are all vital things that you need to do to both get over that first hurdle and then achieve your goal. You also need to learn how to decompress properly, pick up a meditative hobby, or multiple and force yourself to do them consistently you need to take care of yourself to not get burnt out from all of this.

Eat well, sleep well, hydrate, get nutrients, eat fiber, protein and carbs, be able to recognize when something is bad for you and avoid it or take breaks from it. I know you can do this. You are fully capable. If you're an introvert you may always be an introvert but that doesn't mean you can't have a healthy and full social life it just means you need to make sure you balance your energy levels and mental state with socializing. If you find your people that will be so very easy

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