#i think im losing my friends over a mistake i made while drunk

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proven ridge
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okay back to the present...

i haven't talked to anyone just to see if anyone would reach out to me first to study, eat, or hang out. (i usually ask my friend if they wanna go eat or study together every pretty often) so far it's been a week and no one as invited me to do anything... idk what to do. I knew these ppl since the beginning of the year and i feel like i’m pretty close to them… I understand if they don’t want to hang out with me after that incident but im a little upset.

It feels like i was a replaceable friend even though whenever they ask to go places im always down to drive or let them use my room and such. I don’t rlly mind this cuz they do put me into their plans and don’t make me feel like a taxi driver or an airbnb host. On top of that, im closer to them than the guy.

Maybe they didn’t like me that much and that’s why i always had to take the initiative and this incident is just what tipped them over to not liking me.

Maybe im thinking too much…

junior niche
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Dude, I think you are definitely at fault of what you did while being drunk. But you do realise your mistake. Take a bit of time, maybe your other friends want you to have some alone time to realise your mistake. Try to talk to your friends who are mutual with your part black friend. Ask them to convey your apology to him. I just recovered from smtn like this, let me tell you, you can't overthink in these situations. Talk to your friends about how you feel like shi and regret what you did when you were drunk. I'm just 17 so I dint really have much knowledge about these situations but I hope this helps

proven ridge
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yeah, ik im at 100% at fault and i've been punishing myself for that alr. but i feel like it's too late to ask his mutuals to say sorry on my behalf. on top of that i do think it's not very sincere + he said not to hit him up ever again. i think waiting it out and educating myself would be the best choice

junior niche
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It really matters about how close y'all are. Ig it's best to wait it out and continue when he is less mad and forgives you