#am I in the wrong here?

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vestal zodiac
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before you read please note that about my platonic lover friend, she is a bit obsessive over me, she stalks me, gets overprotective over me, and she has attachment issues over me (she also has a intense fear of being abandoned)

so today I was chilling on Vrchat with my platonic friend a little bit til she wanted a break from the game a while, while she was gone I made a friend and texted her about the new friend. so my platonic friend joins and meets my other new friend and the chat was pretty nice and wasnt toxic or anything.

after they greeted each other my platonic friend left to go make more friends while I stayed with my new friend. Later she spam invites at me telling me to come here and I had to leave my friend I just made to check up on her; which wasnt a problem for a quick visit to see what she needs.
basically when I got there she was simping over a guy and she wanted me to do something about it or stay around to hide her? (idrk) but I wanted to be with my other friend (note that I barley get a chance to make friends because I’m shy and this person really was cool and really got along with me)

but my platonic friend was getting upset because I said I wanted to hang around my new friend cause I just met her and I left her waiting on me after I said I was coming back in a minute after I check up on my platonic friend, after a bit my platonic friend tells me to go and she seemed like she was sarcastically joking about it like she was ok with me going so I left. 20 minutes later I see her status saying “crying” and I dont know if I am in the wrong for this ..

sorry for so much to read.. idk how I could shorten this.

(please be brutally honest with me if I am in the wrong because I want to apologize to her if I am in the wrong for this)

dusky mica
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It's likely your close friend has BPD to have such attachment issues. You're her FP - her favourite person.

People can be quick to assume that's a great thing, having a friend that's so dependent on you but... it's not, trust me. Be careful how you handle her because people with BPD are quite special in a lot of ways, but at the same time, they're very fragile.

Still, with that being said, you're just her friend. You have no obligation to stay by your close friend at all times of the day. You have every right to make new friends and spend time with others.