She might have gone through something in the past. She doesn’t want to get hurt by another person leaving her so she leaves them first.
#I'm confused Idk what my BPD gf wants
brisk pewter
Just try re assure her that you’re always with her
How long have you been together?
3 months is quite a short time, do you mind sharing how severe the arguments were? Like were they over small things or?
Yeah she can get trust issues from that. People might be taking advantage of her. By having constant arguments, you’re damaging your trust with her. She needs help because she feels like she’s always the reason that things go wrong. She’s removing you from things because she’s being hurt from herself. She cares about you so she thinks you’re better off without her.
Trust me, she thinks that what she’s doing is right and she won’t let you get through to her. I’ve experienced this. However, I had to learn and that took so long. Even if she removes you, she’ll always remember you. I don’t know what she might do, but you have to tell her that you love her.
Was she scared because she thought she did something wrong?
Is she dealing with low self-esteem? Or anything else?
Just keep providing her with love. Trust comes with time. If you lose her, you two will grow from it. The future is uncertain but the only thing you can do is prepare for it.
She’s trying to get better
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Oh
Why would you need to work on yourself?
That’s what I was just about to ask.
In your arguments
Can you tell me who mostly started them?
You said she was in contact with other people?
If she opened up to somebody about this they could have told her that you were at fault
It’s not good to blame each other when you have arguments. You need to work through it together
It seems unclear about what your future together looks like. I suggest you should just relax. She’ll come around at one point. She’s angry and turning her anger onto you.
Take some time to spend time on yourself and ensure your happiness
Instead of constant worrying