advice please

[gusty turret]

can some people tell me their opinion on the after life/heaven/hell

I'm asking because I've had some bad thoughts yet I don't wanna go to hell

[mortal charm]

well, do u believe in god.

because if u do, god loves u. He will let u in if he loves u. He made u for a reason.

If u don't wanna go to hell u will regret dying

just dont do it

U get my point

[gusty turret]

well yes just I've been very conflicted about it recently especially with everything happening

[gusty turret]

i don't wanna but im starting not to care but idk anymore

[mortal charm]

Will u regret dying?

[gusty turret]

i mean kinda, kinda not

im just getting close to my breaking point yk?

[mortal charm]

U will

[mortal charm]

I know the feeling

[gusty turret]

i get what you mean but i just don't see a future for myself, my life's been going to shit

[mortal charm]

How old r u?

[gusty turret]

16

[mortal charm]

Oh, i guess i can help only limitedly then, seeing the fact im 13

[mortal charm]

Mines been too @long meadow sorry to bother u but can u help him, im younger so my advice is probably bad seen the fact i cant relate to his age yet

[long meadow]

yeah what’s the problem

[gusty turret]

it's cool thanks for helping

[mortal charm]

He wants to end it but hes 16 so i cant really relate to his problem since i'm only 13

He wants to know what the afterlifes like and sh

[long meadow]

Ah I see ok bro listen up, I’m also religious, death is not the answer you’re looking for cuz shit gets way worse for you afterwards if you wanna discuss afterlife

[mortal charm]

I'll leave, thanks!

[long meadow]

Np, dw I got bro

[long meadow]

@gusty turret

[gusty turret]

I know that I've always been told if you end your life yourself you go to hell but I don't know what to do anymore people keep pushing me about what I wanna do with my life in the future but I don't even know if I can focus on school enough I've never been a dedicated person and I have trouble focusing on school and I recently lost all motivation after a close friend of mine ended their life and this shits been killing me slowly and I don't know what to do anymore I'm slowly losing hope and that's how I came to this conclusion but I really don't wanna go to hell or show my family I'm not strong like they think I am I just can't man

[long meadow]

First of all, I’m so sorry to hear about your friend, that must have been really difficult losing someone especially in that way. Grief is painful but know that everyone goes through it at some point, some sooner than others but you can’t lose sight of your own life because of it. It’ll take time but you’re going to get past this, memories will fade eventually but until then you need to hold on. It’s going to be very difficult for a while but you need to keep going regardless bc this pain is temporary and pales in comparison to what comes after if you leave like this.

I also understand you having trouble concentrating in school. When I was your age, I also found it very stressful but it must be 10x worse for you after what happened to your friend. However, the harsh reality is that your friend is gone and you’re still here. You’re still young and you have your whole life ahead of you and in order to live a quality life, you need to stop focussing on what you’ve lost and instead put all your energy into your education. You also need to realise that your lack of motivation is just a mindset which you can and will need to overcome. Education is extremely important and time waits for nobody so you need to stop wasting it feeling upset over someone who isn’t here anymore. Your emotions will not bring them back but if you rein them in and do your best to study today then your future will be a much happier place.

Know that regret is much more painful than any emotion you are feeling rn so don’t stop studying and don’t end your life even if you’re hanging on by a thread because the consequences of both those actions will be unbearable for future you. You don’t see it now cuz you’re young and overwhelmed w all these heavy emotions but when you finally get past this (which you definitely will), you’ll realise all that you have lost so take a deep breath and think ab future you before you make any hasty decisions bc present you will either make or break future you.

[gusty turret]

i really hope your right maybe im just overthinking too much it's just if im going to be honest i loved her man im going to try to get through this i really am but thank you for saying all this it means a lot to me