#My mom insists that I will want kids when I dont

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halcyon gate
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At this point i dont know how long its been since ive kept insisting to my mom that i dont want kids. She keeps saying things like, when you're married you'll understand one day or etc.

Iam currently 18 years old and even now I still dont want kids. Im not quite sure how to describe why I dont want any but the best I can say is perhaps for my own freedom (no offense to any1 who has kids ofc, your happiness is what matters most).

Even convos like blah x3 you'll get it when you have kids one day and I would respond with; but i dont want kids, and she'd always say "dont say that".

Or even convos like (maybe a bit pg) "I want to get chest reduction surgery" (because i dont like having a big chest as a masc leaning person). She would say something insane as "wait till you have kids first so you can provide for them, then you can get the surgery." That one made me gen concerned with how desperate she was for grandkids.

It made me genuinely concerned and scared for the future when ill marry my future partner and still dont want kids after years and idk what my mom might do at that point.

And pls dont say things like "I didnt want kids either back then but when i married i wanted kids and now i love them and my grandchildren." Iam most likely dead set on not having kids.

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My mom insists that I will want kids when I dont

honest arch
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To start off, you should trust your own feelings and opinions. If you do not want kids, that’s a you decision, and no one can make that choice for you. Your mom’s perspective, while important to her, does not have to shape your life. I understand that her opinion might be important to you because she’s your mom, but ultimately, you’re the one in control of your own future.

What matters most is how you and your future partner handle this topic. Not everyone wants children, and you’re a great example of that. Society often frames having kids as a “true purpose” in life, but your purpose is entirely yours to define. If you and your partner love and respect each other deeply, they may accept your stance on not wanting kids—or you might even find that your feelings evolve over time. Both outcomes are valid.

You deserve to find someone who loves you for who you are. Don’t let your mom’s opinion weigh you down or make you feel bad about your choices. Be true to yourself, your happiness matters most.