So 2 months ago me and my ex boyfriend broke up due to fighting everyday for weeks. For context, he is also my bestfriend given we've been in each others lives for quite some time. I was heartbroken and stuck thinking about him for a month. We stayed friends, though I kept longing for him and making myself delusional thinking I'd get another chance. Eventually he did tell me he was only scared of losing me, and didn't have feelings. This was my awakening to realize I should only focus on fixing mine and his friendship. He asked me to move on and I did as he asked to make him happy. I found this guy and we got to know each other, and eventually we did grow a bond and have feelings for each other. I decided this would help me move on, and recently got with him. However, my ex had been experiencing a lot of jealousy recently, and he told me it was simply fear of losing me. A couple days ago we were on a call watching gacha videos as a joke, when he told me he still liked me. This threw me off guard, because for a while I had assumed he moved on, going off of what he said. I guess he didn't, and only recently came to that conclusion once we stopped fighting and got healthy again. However, I'm now dating this new guy (my current boyfriend), and made a commitment to him. I don't know what to do. I'm not a cheater, I know what it's like to be cheated on. I've been filling my boyfriend in on everything going on, including my feelings. But I'm lost and don't know what to do. My bestfriend (ex) is the closest person to me, but I don't even know how to truly move on from him. It's a weird feeling because I didn't even think about him before until he told me he still liked me. Maybe I was still deep down waiting for him to say those words to me? This obviously isn't fair to my boyfriend, and I want to do what's right and or what's healthy. I'm not poly, so that's out of the question. I feel like I have 3 options here. Option 1, stay with my boyfriend and try make my feelings go away for my bestfriend. Option 2, break up with my boyfriend and take a couple months or a year for myself to understand my feelings, and date one day again (whether I date one of them or not). And option 3, break up with my boyfriend and not date ever again because I feel and know I'm in the wrong for this situation and wouldn't want it to happen again
#Stuck in the middle between my boyfriend and my ex
timid oak
void bay
hey, I can't really speak on this situation with absolute certainty or surgical precision but I can only try my best. In my opinion I think you need to cut your ex out even as friends. he broke up with you and it's really odd that he still has feelings for you but expects you to move on. I understand he's your best friend but it will only impact you even more if you stick around and stay friends with him. Its very clear you and your best friend/ex still have heavy feelings towards one another but you have taken the steps to move on. I would say maybe the current boyfriend right now could be a rebound but if he's treating you well and your able to heal with his help then whatever floats your boat.