Recently, I noticed my best friend who I have been having good connections with for sevens years has been acting quite different since highschool started. She would constantly be getting herself into negative relationships which we have warned about her types of guys shes been dating but she won’t listen to me and later comes back to me and talk the problems about them. After those stuff ended (after I helped her out), she would start to complain about everything and talk something thats always negative. I keep on trying to support her but not only she is been affecting my mental health, its also been affecting my education and the motivation to do anything. She also takes my phone to play games with other friends and I am not sure to what even do. Ending the relationship would sound the best for me but to be honest, I would have no friends without her but being with her would just mentally exhausts me so I’m in between with everything here so I need some suggestions with what I should even do. (sorry for yapping)
#help on friendship problems
rapid cairn
copper rune
Set a password on your phone that she doesn’t know, turn off Face ID. Set boundaries and be firm with them…
Honestly friendships are very shallow at our age. 99% of them amount to nothing of value once you leave school. If I were you. Just be comfortable. Set your boundaries that create it into a comfortable place for you even if that means taking some time for yourself, letting her know your parents are getting strict with you and you have to study more so you can’t check your messages as much, if she takes it badly well, is that someone you want in your life is that someone who shares the same values as you? Or you could be completely blunt with her. Tell her she means a lot to you but it’s getting difficult to handle the emotional load from “her own very important issues” she’s facing too. “Can we try and limit how much time we spend on these topics?” And hey, you’ll find out what kind of person you’re dealing with, if she ends up taking it badly, well, is that the definition of a friend?
This is just me though.
Sorry for yapping.
(This is pretty much simply my own interpretation if I faced this issue.) it’s not to be taken at face value and applied.