#What do i do?

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topaz anvil
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So for 6 months i had my first love she left maybe even cheated afterwards with another guy from my class they havent kissed and stuff. The reason she left is because i didnt communicate good i think but i mean everyday is said good morning and goodnight i was always active, in the beginning we talked everyday at school but this schoolyear we didnt no we are in the same class and she was with her friends and i with mine. We are both socialy awkward that makes it worse but i have a class where i learned about that stuff and i see i could of did things that made it better but also did she. She keeps liking videos on instagram that go like "you werent a full couple, but it was nice i miss it" kinda videos and i mean a piece of me will never be able to let go of her but she is with someone else. I dont know what to do i dont see them talk much

steel mantle
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Maybe try to approach her or text her and say "hey, we dont talk a lot anymore and I wanted to catch up with you". if you want to, make it clear that you missed talking to her. it will make her feel valued. if she tries to say "i have a boyfriend" or she gets the idea that you're tryna hook up with her, continue to clarify that you just wanted to be friends again because of how distant you guys are this school year being that you have a bunch of different classes and all

topaz anvil
steel mantle
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are you saying that the teacher assigned permanent seats where she was sitting next to you, but she moved away from you?

topaz anvil
steel mantle
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have you ever asked her about it?

topaz anvil
steel mantle
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did this awkwardnes between you two come out of nowhere or did something happen?

topaz anvil
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and i mean idk bc like she is smart she maybe planned it or some

topaz anvil
steel mantle
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you have to take a stand and be mature. if your concerned about the situation, speaking up is the best thing you could possibly do or else nothing will happen. i’m not the kind of person to speak up either, im honestly pretty awkward and quiet most of the time as well, but last year there were multiple times where i had to speak up for myself and even though i was admittedly scared, the situation was settled because i voiced my concern

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you gotta talk to her man. maybe ask her in class “hey, is there a time where we can talk?”

topaz anvil
steel mantle
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yeah

topaz anvil
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ow

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well im not good at that i mean i havent even looked at her straight in the eyes for 2 months

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i wanted to text her but idk what

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maybe like sending a message that explains my side?

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like wait i will send the message.

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it will be in another language so ill translate

steel mantle
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you could do that if youre more comfortable, but speaking in person really helps get the message across better, makes you sound more confident, and puts you in charge. i dont want to make you do something you dont want to, just telling you that there are situations where its better to tell someone in person. but of course you could text her

topaz anvil
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i really dont know how to say it all, do you know how to say it all

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can you help

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@steel mantle pls?

steel mantle
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Hello, im back. sorry im in class right now so i may come and go

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Alright, just give me a summary of what exactly you want to tell her

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first approach her asking if you can talk after class or when she has time. make it convenient for her. then when youre with her to talk, start off by saying how youve been thinking about how you guys have grown more distant and you wish to continue talking to her like friends, you just dont know why she seems to have been avoiding you.

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make sure to ask why she moved away from you in class and if she has been avoiding her and why

topaz anvil