I recently realized that I'd been gaining feelings for my best friend for a while now. The issue before was she was currently dating another guy, so I was content letting my feelings die unnoticed. (This has been a recurring pattern for me, where the people I want to be closer to reject me without thought) But she has broken up with her boyfriend for about a month as of writing. So I'm wondering if I should just bite the bullet now, give it some more time to process before I try? I really care about her, and don't want to stress her out more than necessary with my mess.
#I'm falling for my best friend, and I'm not sure what to do.
lapis meteor
hushed ocean
Hi man, from what i see you've reached the boiling point where i usually say there are 2 choices you can take and one of them is not well for anyone long term and filled with regret
First you can confess put yourself on the line not let your emotions stir you up inside, explain to her that youd prefer if you started dating since you dont want to see her as just a friend, if she says yes thats great and youve earned yourself a relationship that bloomed from a great friendship which is truely a great feeling. If she says no, thats also ok because youve shot your shot you took the risk, because you couldnt keep your feelings for her boiling inside, though in that scenario youll need to consider over your friendship, because after such a confession EVERYTHING will change, though in some cases it will slowly revert to normal but pretty rare.
The other choice you need to consider, is how much you value her as a friend and reach a conclusion that you dont want to risk your friendship. I think its the wrong choice, since you turely have feelings gor her, perhaps if you make that choice, youll slowly come to appreicate her more as a friend though you might also feel intense feeling of regret for not acting upon your heart.