#My girlfriend is stressing me out

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spark shadow
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I'm new to this so I'm sry if I sound kinda weird I read the rules/expectations and do my best to read them but basically my gf Avery has really bad jealousy issues. We've been together for 2 years, going on 3 in 2025 so it's really hard to break up over it now.

What triggers their jealousy issues specifically I can't recall, but there were issues that were involved in a trio we both were in and since then they've been really controlling and jealous over any close friendship I've ever had to the point I'm uncomfortable making irl friends and sometimes online friends because there are times where they've gaslighted me or threatened to abandon me because I wasn't "doing enough in the relationship" or "not including them enough"

I don't know what to do. I've talked to them about it and it's something they can't get over. I've tried to break up with them several times, they won't let me (They say a breakup between couples is a mutual agreement, and they're obsessed with me so they could never). Even in our worst moments I couldn't leave. Don't get me wrong we've had some really good moments out there and they're actually the sweetest most comforting person I met which is something they use against me. For example one time I threatened to leave and they answered with "If you leave me you'll never have someone love you the way I did again"

I'd really appreciated some insight or a different point of view so I feel a little less trapped in this situation. I can't tell my parents because they'd obsess way too much (in other words, try to handle the situation for me or force me to leave them) which would only stress me out further. I feel like the only way out of this is suicide.

Anyways, I'm sorry for the big rant I needed to get that out before I sleep

lusty mirage
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If you leave them then yes, you will never have to go through what they call their love for you again. Good and bad. They will no longer be able to make you feel like you aren’t doing enough, never make you feel pressured to be with them, nor could they continue to threaten to leave you… because you’d have made it out. What kind of love is it if you’re constantly thinking about all the things that’s wrong with it? Doesn’t sound like a good thing to me, regardless of how big of a source of comfort this person has been for you in the past. Your relationship with them sounds manipulative and I feel certain that you deserve better. I’m sorry you’re going through this man.