I am also similar to you. I am very anxious to speak to people and I understand where you are coming from. What I've found that works for me is to embrace that. I think not talking alot is actually a good characteristic, most of the time it's the idiots who talk the most. But being completely serious every time I speak has only benefited me in the sense people also take me seriously the times I do decide to speak. It definitely helps that I am a rather big guy but people are intimated by me and in alot of cases that's a good thing because people don't take you for a fool or try and take advantage of you. The girls part, I am still trying to figure that one out, because girls want someone who makes them feel happy and I am not that guy. Hope that helps.
#Need Help with Social Anxiety and Conversations
cedar grove
cedar grove
It also takes me a while to warm up towards people. I am very much like you. I don't know what to talk about so I am cool with sitting in silence and it freaks people out after a couple minutes and I haven't said a word. But what I am trying to say is don't feel forced to speak and fill in the silence. If someone brings up a topic ypu can speak to them about it but if you don't have anything to say, don't say anything. That's how I avoid making myself look stupid. But yeah but if you want to be relaxed and talkative I can't really help you.
cedar grove
This is also something I can relate too. I like talking about ideas and world veiws and with people who disagree with me. I find it very interesting to talk to someone who sees the world so much different than I do. But no body wants to talk about that or in my experience at least. They rather talk about sport and what they are gonna do next week or they gossip etc. I find it very frustrating to not be able to talk about something I want to discuss.
candid forge
I think we have some problem, i cannot to talk with people directly, its so hard to talk with people irl, so i make a friend online and that feel better, i can start a conversation when i talking/chatting online but not on rl, we have really really similar problem
But i keep trying to talk, but i cant, i try to talk with people i think have something similar with me, or something i interested, but if it not i will stay quiet and do an observation about them, at least when they suddenly ask me something i can answer it nerveusly
cedar grove
Yeah it's a bummer. But I don't think there's much we can do about it.
cedar grove
I think we have some problem, i cannot to talk with people directly, its so hard...
I prefer to talk to people in person. I can't build relationships online. I sometimes take days to respond to text messages, so I prefer in person conversations.
I don't really know. Haven't really thought about it.
Depends on the situation
It doesn't change the way I act so I don't really see it as important for the most part.
Well I'd find something to keep myself busy with to avoid awkwardly standing there. If they come to me to speak to me I'll have a conversation with them but I won't initiate it.
But here's the thing, if it's your guests you can't just disappear, it'll be rude. But if it's your uncles guests like in the scenario, you can do what ever you want. You don't owe them anything.
When my parents invite friends or family over which I don't really know. In the past I've just like randomly decided it's time to mow the lawn or the store room has to be cleaned or the bathroom light is faulty and that's my way of escaping their company.
candid forge
Did someone tag me? Or diacord bugging?