how do i get over someone so fast

[livid apex]

i broke up with my bf a few weeks ago in september, we lasted for about 5 months i dont know how to feel he didnt really trust me (as much as before) because i made 2 mistakes which were saying something rude and pranking him but he wasnt convinced enough that i still loved him but the thing was he was lying aswell saying he wouldnt leave me and lose feelings but either way i know it would have happened one day and we were very close and he would NEVER go near any girl but his mental health wasnt as good so he would doubt himself and think i would lie about loving him but after the break up he said he tried to get over me idk if thats a good thing but he said i was still very pretty, he never really knew how to communicate he would think everyone would make fun of him but hes so handsome in my eyes, but then he said he didnt want to talk to me anymore i think it would make him get over me better but i just wanna be friends i cant eat anymore or sleep thinking if he would miss me, but i dont know anymore i force myself to move on but i cant. and i dont think i wanna be in another relationship until i get married. i hope he comes back but i cant force that on him because he might be drained at the moment i would give him the world if i could. I miss the feeling of being loved by someone espescially by him i dont want anyone else to.

[woven mirage]

i was in a 5 years relationship
and believe me it takes time to forget about your past lovwr
for me it was like 6 months or so
so yeah
just distract yourself until you eventually forget about everything

[sharp steppe]

Learning to live without people is a valuable and (usually) sorely overlooked skill. In my opinion, one of the healthiest things one can learn how to do is be able to lose a loved one and be okay. This alone will take away all the fear that comes with love, and you can love someone so much better if you are not attached to them in this way. Only when you are emotionally capable of losing your partner can you comfortably give them the freedom all beings deserve. A cage is suffocating, frustrating, it weakens the spirit of the one trapped, no matter how beautiful the cage is or how much love it was made with. Your relationship with him, if it continues in any way, will be all the better if you two take this time apart to cultivate the skill of being apart. You will be okay.

[elfin pilot]

It really does take time, and the truth is, you may never forget them you'll just learn how to live with it.

[livid apex]

yea thank you im slowly getting over him but i just wished he would know how much i care because he knows that no one else likes him except me, i like him because hes special to me but he just threw me out of his life like that. it is frustrating

[sharp steppe]

I know the feeling too well. All the more reason to detach. Remember the cliché tragedy of human nature, that we love that which we cannot have, that we only know the value of something when we lose it, and seek to be better than this. You deserve better.

[livid apex]

sometimes i realize at the end he was soo drained he always called himself ugly, almost every single day i called him handsome and cute but he only cared about what they thought about his face i dont know but my friends (not anymore) always came in between us which they shouldnt they never listen to me and they caused him to be deppressed, i feel like he deserved a better girlfriend with better friends. sometimes i made mistakes which made him think wrongly. hes soo sensitive but yk at the end he never bothered to ask me nice questions or text me as much. i want a guy that could love me even if small mistakes happen

[south sky]

You cant really get over someone fast, to do that would need for your love for him to disappear instantly which is basically impossible, you cannot magically just turn off your love for him. So, for your answer, its impossible. You cant get over someone that fast, it takes time. You can only try to let go of the past for the present and future, and focus on the now, on the things which are important. Though, you should also be genuine with your feelings, dont say it's fine when it's not, it's never good to bottle up your emotions. Be true to your heart. We, humans, are exceptionally good at lying to ourselves.

[calm light]

Hello. I am actually in the same situation as you. My ex and I broke up 2 years ago and I put no contact almost a year ago. He tried to reach out to me a few times, last time was 2 months ago. I found out the other day when he got into a new relationship, I was devastated. In my experience, it takes time to get over someone. You can’t expect one day or a month to get over them. Again it takes time

[livid apex]

i try to even though i have to see him every single day it hurts but i know it will take time hopefully and yea i should express my feelings more often even though i dont really do it that much, but hes so confusing too, he says to stop texting him but he texts me the next day.

[south sky]

If i may ask, you said he texted you the next day despite him saying to not text him anymore, what did he say?

[sharp steppe]

The thing about love is that it casts a light on everything around it. The stronger the love, the stronger the light. People used to living in darkness, in negativity, toxicity, ignorance, people like this treat light like it's their enemy. It's not always their fault, after all what happens when we stare directly at the sun? It gets to be a little too much. But yeah, when you find someone you love it makes many people jealous, especially so-called "friends." Don't be naive, friends want your downfall almost as much if not more than your enemies. Nobody is so well-poised to stick a knife in your heart as a friend. They could've been sabatoging your relationship the whole time and you'd be none the wiser. It's wild. And about your ex...some people just want to believe in the negative, at least for a little while. Maybe they haven't felt enough pain in their life. Maybe they aren't ready to see themselves as a winner. Whatever the reason, they must go and see where it leads. Better to let them. We're all birds, we need to fly. Maybe he'll come back, maybe not. There are guys out there that can love you the way you want to be loved, you just can't give up the hunt. Most guys are shit but on the bright side, it'll make it all the more satisfying when you find a good one. Cheers, have a good day.

[livid apex]

he asked if i liked anyone then made a convo about him seeing me on the bus with my friends and he goes through our chats for some reason but i dont think he even likes me anymore. i dont expect him to, even though there are other boys who like me i dont notice them as much as him! but im slowly moving on!

[vapid bane]

There is no way to get over someone fast.

Indulge in hobbies/activities you like, spend more time with friends and family, and when you start thinking about him, don't push those thoughts away. Just Grieve.

It'll pass with time. Wishing you well ❤️

[livid apex]

your right i cant get over him very fast i have to wait a lot of time since we basically see eachother everyday and we share the same friends aswell, today i saw his vents to my best friend about me a couple of weeks ago about him saying he thinks i like my past crush and him saying i never open up about my mental health problems and he was being really doubtful saying me loving him is a lie and that he would never find anyone who would choose him

i showed him many signs i would choose him tho so yea

i distract myself tho

we talk everyday but he acts like we had nothing, i asked him if i was a bad person and if he thinks i would wanna hurt his feelings but he said no

i have no idea wats the problem

[latent temple]

maybe he doesnt want to move on from u so he goes into info about ur past and ur crushes and see how u feel abou them