my girl best friend

[floral tangle]

So i really need some advice here because basically ive known her since february and we just instantly became close friends but i also started to like her then over the summer i realized that i had fallen in love with her so i asked her out and she had said she was “unsure” if she wants to be in a relationship with me because she said she fell in love with her friend a couple years ago but she said that she does like me back and so i was going to try to start moving on and hopefully finding someone else but in school she keeps doing stuff that makes it seem like she wants to date me like she made me a bracelet with her name on it and she keeps like touching me or like holding my hand and she also pretty much made me ask her to hoco but she still doesn’t want to date me and its like i want to move on but any time i try to she does something that makes me believe that she’ll change her mind and want to but then she goes ahead and reminds me that we aren’t dating so like idk if i want to move on or if i want to keep filling my head with these delusions that we will be together one day

[desert latch]

intentionally or not, her indecisiveness is hurting you and thats not fair to you. you can understand what shes been through with her previous romantic experiences but you can still (and i personally think you should) assert a firm but gentle boundary with her about this.

you could tell her that you arent okay with her treating you as she does, as if youre in a relationship, without actually being in one. tell her youre open to dating her if she comes around to it, but otherwise you want her to stop coming onto you.