So I’m 18 about to be 19. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 2 and a half years and I’m havin doubts on whether I wanna stay in the relationship or not. We lived in the same city and met in school but I moved a month after we started dating. And we knew I was moving, but still entered the relationship. Not cool I know. I started college about 2 months ago and I feel like she’s anxious about what I’m doing and where I am and I feel like I can’t live my life because I have to make sure she’s ok. I just don’t think I can do it for much longer without sacrificing my social life/grades or her feelings. She’s only an hour and a half away so it’s not terrible but still annoying. I still love her but I don’t think I wanna be in this relationship anymore and I definitely don’t think I wanna marry her which I thought I did previously. I started feeling like this roughly 2-3 months ago and thought it was a phase, it wasn’t. What makes things even worse is that her family loves me and I love them, just don’t think I can make her happy and she doesn’t make me happy.
#Don’t know where to go with my relationship
cold fossil
crude monolith
Then break up with her. Don’t let it drag on any longer.
sudden shadow
oh i think u can say: ''that will hard to say but i will say it, i cant be in relationship with u caze of this i can reach my goals'' what do u think?
cold fossil
I just don’t know what to say when she starts asking why. Cause I know why, but it sounds like I could work harder and fit her into my life. Problem is I’ve been trying for 2+ months and nothings changed.
Cause she really is great but I just don’t think both of us can be happy at the same time. Either I get my way and she’s wondering why she’s not the focal point of my life or I focus on her and feel like I’m not living up to my potential as goofy as that sounds. Really is like a right people wrong time scenario.
crude monolith
Say that you lost feelings for her and that it's something that you have control over, which is true.
You can offer to still be friends or keep in touch if it's something you both want to do
cold fossil
I can try that. Thanks
wintry spindle
Cause she really is great but I just don’t think both of us can be happy at the ...
from a girl it would honestly hurt less if u showed her this like message
like just ss exactly what you told everybody here and show her because it's better to hear the truth and everything on your mind than just "I lost feelings" if that makes sense
cold fossil
I wanna tell her how I feel but its so scary. In her mind everything is fine and I am fine just because I've been avoiding conflict and just bending to her demands. I just thought that as long as she's happy ill be fine but thats not the case anymore.