#aight, i need some advice

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so pretty much, theres this girl ive been chasing for awhile, and like we've dated 4 times, and each time either I or her break up, and i keep wanting her, and we are two polar opposites, she wants to call 24/7 and i dont, and i just get drained constantly, and even now i want her back, but ik shes bad for me. ive tried forgetting about her before with other people, and i always want her, and its this endless cycle i just cant break. I seriously need some advice

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Follow your heart. From what it sounds like you guys obviously want to be together so why do anything else but that.

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well, because im introverted, and i cant handle calling alot, and i have to call 24/7 with her

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so it completely drains what little mental health i have left

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Set boundaries, if she likes you as much as you like her then she’ll understand yk

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ive tried, it doesnt end out well

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I need to understand this first, are you actively together and trying to get out or what’s your status with her?

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Like what’s your goal when it comes to this person

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talking to, not together, just got out of a breakup, trying not to go back

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You don’t even want them as friends?

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In that case block them altogether

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ive tried, but i am struggling with jealousy so seeing them with another guy would not make me feel any better 😭

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ikik, jealousy is bad, however i got it, i just kind of live with it at this point

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I’ve been in a similar situation and you know how I got out of it

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By channeling that energy into something else

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In my case it was the gym

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i do, i make mods for certain video games

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it only goes so far though

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Other people have different ways of channeling energy but imo the gym is the best for everyone

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i cant go to the gym consistently, the closest gym is a 20 min drive, and i dont have my full license yet

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If you truly are done with that person then throw them out, they aren’t worth you time and worry when they didn’t even give you the appreciation you deserve

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i mean they arent bad, they did give me affection, its just that they have wants different than me

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and i think thats the core of it

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i dont like calling alot, and they want to 24/7, i know they say opposites attract, but idk if that applies here

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It sounds like they’ve already move on from your relationship and are just using as some source of attention

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It doesn’t sound healthy

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You guys don’t want a relationship but she keeps wanting you to call 24/7 right?

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no this is while in the relationship

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mb its 2am for me and im depressed so i may not be explaining shit fully

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Your all good dude I think I’m grasping it good

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I think you should cut it off honestly, if it didn’t work out after repeatedly trying then it might be time for you to move on man

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well

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You gotta put yourself as #1 priority yk, if a relationship with her is draining you this bad then you gotta let it go and move on

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my question was answered for me

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she just blocked me

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It’s for the better dude trust

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pissed me off ngl, no reason why, no response, just blocked

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f ing hell

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Just focus on standing back up and recovering

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lmao

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You gotta be the best version of yourself there is and from what I heard she wasn’t gonna get you there

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f ing e-girls man

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goddamn

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sorry

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im still mad

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Dude let it go, it’s over now, there’s no point in getting angry over something that in the long run is gonna be beneficial to you

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nah you right

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it aint even the blocking, its js the no reason for it

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i dont know if youre much of a religion kinda guy, but i see this as a sign from God

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He tellin me to go find someone better for me

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Exactly dude yes!

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Find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve

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ay man, i fw you, i appreciate the advice alot, feel free to hit me up if you need some advice back, i may get into shit situations, but i got good experience from them 😂