#should i give up on finding someone

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true furnace
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idek what to do anymore hardly. I know im still fairly young and everything, but I'm a junior in high school. All of my friends are currently in relationships or have been in one before and i've never even been in the talking stage. I kinda struggle with initiating conversations/being extroverted, so it puts me at a slight disadvantage because all the girls that have been in relationships are always talkative. I'm trying to get it out of my own head that I need a relationship, but when it surrounds me every day, in every conversation, and in every class - it's hard to just not acknowledge. So then i tried to work on my confidence - but that's also a struggle too, and it's been like that for years. I'm still working on it but I also feel like if i get too talkative i just come off as annoying and repetitive instead of the cool type of extroverted, so i just end up not talking. Plus if i try to force the introvertedness away and be more independent or whatever - so that i can get my mind off my lack of a relationship - it only makes guys even less interested because it seems like im closed off. So i dont really know what to do because its messing with my confidence and mental health and everything and i cant get away from it

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tl;dr - never been in a relationship and im in my junior year of high school. all my friends have AT LEAST been pursued before, but i never have even been in the talking stage. I can force myself to be more independent and get the lack of relationship off my mind, but usually that makes guys less interested even though that would make me more mentally sound. But yeah its messing with my confidence and mental health and everything but i cant get away from it.

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pretty much everyone i know has at least been in the talking stage by now, and most stuff happened with them last year (sophomore year). and yet i still have nothing

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am i doing something wrong

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or should i just stop

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tbh i dont even know if it would be considered stopping since it never really started in the first place haha

ornate loom
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same omg

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lol y delete msgs

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when i saw this post i said the same thing "atleast im not the only one"

pliant umbra
# true furnace idek what to do anymore hardly. I know im still fairly young and everything, but...

You have the advantage of being a girl, so if you look passably healthy you can bag pretty much any guy on the street. You just have to take care and bag the right guy...and if your "right guy" is a 6'3 hunk, then you're going to have to build yourself to suit.

You're still in school, it is not too late. Pay attention to whos in your classes, and see if anyone catches your eye. If they do, you should ask them instead of waiting for them to ask you

true furnace
true furnace
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although i do go to a small school and so there aren’t really a ton of options

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there’s a new guy who’s an exchange student from germany that seems nice and we might have a lot of common interests, but we don’t share any classes and i’m too scared to talk to him right now even to just be friends

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a good majority of the other guys are already in relationships lol

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and who knows maybe the german guy is too

coarse star
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boys

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aree

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lonely

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even if they have friends

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their feelings are very

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inward

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talk to them

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if they have common interests and are single

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consider yourself successful

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cuz most of the time

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they also need a relationship

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but theyre scared of rejection

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good luck!

pliant umbra
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^ Accurate.

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Like, seriously. Look at half of the threads in this channel.

coarse star
pliant umbra
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@true furnace also take a look at the "Trying to cope" thread that I just bumped up to the top of the channel. There's some stuff in there that could help you as well

coarse star
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ah no im fine

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im in a relationship and i love her

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if thats what you meant

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idk how to check bumped things 😭

pliant umbra
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Whoops, mixed up my names lol