Sometimes I feel like I'm failing to do what people want
#Family Problems
ashen mural
so, my mom is kind of making my life difficult and stressful
she wants me to do everything she tells me exactly that moment, and I have to quit what im doing, no matter what it is
when she tells me to do something, I usually respond with "ok" or "mhm", and she keeps saying "and what does that mean? your "mhm's" mean nothing. I want you to do it right now because I know you're going to forget
It's not that I forget, its because she keeps telling me to do things that I know I need to do, and she also repeats herself, and then asks me "Why do I have to repeat myself?" or "What did I say about repeating myself" or sometimes "I've repeated this twice already" when I already know I have to do it
Example
She tells me to do the dishes. I do the dishes. When I'm still working, she tells me to put away my laundry. I say "ok" and continue working on the dishes. She asks in an annoyed tone "hello? what did I just ask you to do?" and I respond "the laundry, im almost done with this." And then she's like "aren't you done with that already?" or "What's taking so long?" or "Stop doing whatever you're doing thats taking so long and finish the dishes"
Another thing
So I have to go to physical therapy every week because my legs are weak and I have flat feet
So they give me exercises that are normally fine, just time consuming and sometimes exhausting
This week however, my exercises were really hard and I'm not that strong, so I was really sore today (therapy is on wednesdays). In PE, my teacher made our class run half a mile because some people in our class wouldnt shut up. And my classes are spread out between 4 floors, so there's a lot of stairs to climb.
Usually I do my exercises after dinner, and I'm still sore, even right now, and it's like I can't even sit down without a little pain.
So I was doing my exercises, and my mom was like, "You need to go down a little more because that's barely anything." I responded with "I can't, it hurts." She tells me "That's because you aren't stretching" Proceeds to make me do stretches that feel like it's going to make my legs tear apart.
Then I go back to exercises. She tells me the same thing, that Im not bending my knees enough. I tell her again "It hurts, I'm sore from yesterday and I had to run half a mile." She tells me I'm just being lazy and need to stop slacking on my exercises
I feel like I'm the one that's not doing what she wants and I need to push myself to the point of breaking even more than I already have to please people. My mom wants me to do everything at once. My friends want me to wait in the lunch line for twenty minutes so they can get their food. Some kids I know but aren't really friends with want me to give them their notes because "guysssss didn't study and im totally gonna bomb this test."
side note - my mom will yell at me for anything and everything
she yelled at me because my cat was sleeping on my pillow
gilded verge
Okay alli, begininning from your original message, it seems like your mother is having a hard time commuinicating what she wants you to do. And thats not your fault. I understand you must respect your parents and what they say goes and unfrotunately thats the hard pill to swallow. But I feel like in my opinion that you express that you dont understand what she wants you to start with. I understand it hurts when your mother shouts or gets upset with you and especially if its not your fault. And, trust me I don't believe its your fault. Maybe, next time, in a respectful manner, ask her politely what does she want you to do first. That might go a long way.
ashen mural
ok ill try thank you
gilded verge
If she does not take that well, it simply not your fault. I grew up with an abuive father who tried to kill me several times. And on the other side of the table my mother was a narcacist which didnt help, I've been there. and unfortunately your only option is, if it makes you feel degraded. cps if youre under 18. she should not be treating you like that. trust me ive been there