My parents are fighting. Again. My dad did something really wrong. He lied about a really big thing that has hurt my mom immensely to the point she can’t stand being near him anymore. My mom made me and my siblings sit together in a room and shared the conflict they’ve been having. Being involved is the worst possible thing and I honestly hate it to the core. I hate choosing sides. I’m angry at my dad for hurting mom because she obviously doesn’t deserve it and my mom expects me to ‘show’ the anger. But unfortunately, showing these emotions towards my dad has always been tough whenever he does something wrong to my mom. I’ve always been closer to my dad more than my mom. I feel like a horrible daughter for not being able to show support to my mom. It’s always been like this. All I really want is no part of it. No matter who’s right or wrong. I’m tired of facing all these since I stepped into this world. My mom says we’re a family and doesn’t see me in a good eye when I don’t speak up if my dad’s wrong. It’s a really bad side of me. It really hurts to talk about my dad in a negative way more than my mom. I just really struggle to speak up no matter how wrong he is. I’m the problem, right? I just want to step away from all these forever. I’m really tired.
#Parents are fighting
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limpid totem
Wow, what a narcissistic gruelling person.
dark star
You're an adult and i think you should speak up for your mom when your dad is in the wrong. She asks you to speak up for herself because you're an adult. Just put yourself in your mom's place. Try to help her next time.
limpid totem
Well problem is
Involving someone in an argument that's clearly should be confidential and private is a potential red flag
First of all, if the person who's dragged along has nothing to do with the problem then that's wrong in many ways. It just means the aggressor wants to make a huge deal about the problem, expanding it all over the place. Second, we don't really know the family picture. It's the outside we see
Besides a good family doesn't involve their children in an argument unless it's custody battle
It's both the parent's fault putting their own children under constant pressure (if the fights happen constantly) and guilt tripping.
dark star
True, i agree.
dark star
It's both the parent's fault putting their own children under constant pressure ...
I think i understand why i'm messed up as well. Thanks.
limpid totem
Oh, don't worry sweet, you didn't messed up. You have your point and it makes sense in some way
Either way what both of them, especially the mom, doing are wrong
dark star
No,i'm talking about myself. My parents still fight constantly. And like her, my mom also told me like, 'you’ve grown up now,so what do you think about your dad '. I've felt miserable my whole life that i always wanted my parents to be divorced.
limpid totem
Well, it's their own issue to resolve not yours
If you think an environment is too toxic that it kills you then leave my dear. It wouldn't help if you keep the key and have yourself lock up forever
dark star
It's always been my biggest problem tbh. The argues are so severe that if i am not between them,i think there will be a murder. I'm planning to get out of it but leaving all of the things behind isn’t easy. Cutting of family isn’t easy,moreover i still don't earn. But i'm planning to leave asap.
And the thing i'm afraid of is,if i leave, there will obviously be a murder. I love my mom and She's helpless. But i also don't want to live with her in the same house cause She's manipulative. I really don't know what to do.
limpid totem
Well, if there's a murder then you're out of mystery