ive met him in game (he's french and im from poland so it was long distance) in january and i had a crush on him from the start, after some time we got together, i was always the part to give him affection and appreciation, i always made sure that he's feeling as good as possible but he only cared abt "fun" with me, he loved reciving pics from me etc and he never tried to make sure that i feel good around him aswell, i wasnt reciving compliments and stuff like that. he was obsessing over me, he wasnt letting me meet my friends or even play without him. he always wanted to know what im doing and i just accepted it even tho i felt really bad abt it. i told him how insecure i was many times but he just told me to leave him alone every time. after some time when i got rid of my depression and when i started appreciating myself more i decided to leave my house more to do sports and meet my friends, i also moved out and he hated on me cuz he lost his apartment. i developed better relationship with my family and i started doing better overall when he was feeling worse and worse. i told him many times that we gotta work on the fact that he's so obsessive and i proposed everything- therapy, etc. i was giving him so many chances but nothing was changing. yesterday i decided that i'll join my friends instead of him and he told me that i fucked up and that i was the problem. idk what to do rn i know that this relationship was wrong but i still loved him so much and idk what to do with my days, how to feel abt it. i feel like i wasnt worth trying for and that im completely unlovable and not enough. im sorry for my broken english, im panicking rn and im not even checking on what im typing
#how to deal with break up, idk what to do
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I’m really sorry you had to go through that, that was definitely a toxic relationship and I’m glad you’re out of it now. I know it’s hard to accept this but even though you loved him you’re much better off. And you absolutely are worth trying for and you aren’t unlovable, there are some people in this world who just act the way your ex did no matter how good their partner is. You absolutely are enough. You can get through this breakup and come out on the other side stronger because of everything he put you through. Just remember that you’re amazing and you’re loved and you can get through this!