idk, but im fkin scared of my mom, like im traumatised. everytime when me or my siblings did smth wrong and pisses her off, she'll start yelling and hit us. it is happening rn and im scared. she is yelling downstairs at my elder brother. it's progressively getting worse and im scared im next since i just pissed her off jn too. someone help- idk what to do. i wanna fkin leave this house so bad. this shit is so traumatising
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i’m going to start by saying sorry you have to go through this. its heart breaking when a parent physically harms their children and repeatedly . it’s not your fault it’s happening, your mom is fked up. have you thought of calling a hotline or texting an abuse line?
and do you have any family members that it would be safe to talk to about this?
in my country, it prolly doesnt count as abuse. cause in most asian countries parents hit their child often as like a way to teach their child. but im srsly fkin scared 😭
not really... they would prolly think it's normal too
Is she hitting you as in disciplinary ways or she’s actually abusing you?
I know some parents spank their children for being bad at school or refusing to do chores or smth
But she just hits yall for small things and stuff
Does it leave bruises?
it does, but it will fully heal in 2-5 days
i think disciplinary
Okay that’s abuse
Not disciplinary if it’s leaving bruises
And if it’s for small things
idk, i mean, if u hit someone it will defo leave bruises tho
i did smth bad and she'll hit me for it
or she'll sometimes threathen me saying she is gonna hit me if i dont do what she says
it's understandable if i was young but im 15 almost turning 16
idk what to do
If it gets really bad then u can show authorities
like audio and pics
but u should tell friends or ur school first
i did told my friends but they just told me to bear with it until im of age and just move out
uhm
they didnt even try help u?
wow
they cant do anything about it too
im sure they wanted to, but even if they tried, jt wouldnt impact much
i dont think it's necessary... plus, i dont even know if im just sensitive about it or it's actually tht bad
what about a school counselor?
also, does she only hit you or do other forms of damage like throw stuff at u, pull your hair, etc??
if it’s not spankings and If it leaves marks and happens frequently it is abuse i think
Be careful how you express your perants to complete strangers because I see this as something very serious. Does she have any mental problems? This is an serious offense and without certainty can get your mum into trouble
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ik i should be careful and im not blaming my mom on anything cause ik hitting their child in asia is quiet common. i just wanted to know what to do since i was hit by her since young and i was traumatised. everytime she gets mad and start hitting my siblings, i couldnt breathe or move because im scared. im not sure if she has mental problems either...
i did kinda try, but it was for other reasons. it was about my mental health, but they did nth about it.
she sometimes throw stuff at me but it wasnt often
it leaves mark but im sure it's spanking?
OH if it’s spanking then that’s kind of just parenting…
but maybe tell her she is being to rough on ur little bootys
wish i could tell her tht 😔
||my whole body has lines from the clothing hanger (idk if this is tw but i'll censor it) ||
but im okay now :D
SHE BEAT U WIRH A CLOTHING HANGER??
Hello. I was physically abused by both my parental figures as a child too. To escape this, I would run out into the street from my house so that they couldn’t follow me since neighbours would witness it. If you can’t do this, I would wear extra layers of clothing that are sizes too big and put blankets over me before you anticipate your mother will hit you again.
Some situations we can not control in our lives what others do to us but we can control how to react. What we can do to minimize the damage.
Ohhh it's normal for mom's in Asia to beat you up with a clothing hanger lol
@atomic narwhal you said your whole body? so she doesn’t just give you spankings?
lmaoo yea, so im quite chill about tht, but i just dont know how to deal with it mentally yk
hmm, alright thanks
i will dont worry tho
Does she verbally abuse you
I'm used to the beatings and shit but I'm having a hard time getting used to being verbally abused and stuff lol
tbh the reason why i posted about this is just to ask for advice on how to deal with it mentally, cause it's making me really traumatised. im not sure if i expressed myself wrongly, but tht was what i initially wanted. a lot of u guys hv been concern about her abusing me, but i personally dont think it's abuse. maybe it's cause of the way tht i was raised but yea.
Nahh they can't understand us unless they're Asians too lol
hmm, do u mind giving examples cause im not sure either
Uhh like saying you're useless and stuff, you should die, that kind of stuff
she did lol
Are you a good kid or nahhh?
true, they were just raised differently
i mean, the only trouble i caused was "not studying hard enough"
Yeah one beating and they're ranting about being abused lol
couldnt blame them for thinking tht way. it would be nc if we didnt get hit too
We're on the Same boat lol
hahahah yea, sucks tht these stuff happened to us
Nahh I'm glad I'm getting beat up by my parents I don't want to be like the other kids in here
hey, tht's not really a nc thing to say
But they should stop the verbal thing tho it hurts lol
But it's true they're getting their parents in trouble for always ranting about being abused and their parents hurt them or whatever (except for the people who really got abused by their parents)
true, they thought the stuff they say will makes us successful lmaooooo
well, i mean, we nvr know, so it's better if we dont say smth like tht tht would clearly upset people
I don't know maybe our parents are also raised that way
i dont see them successful in anyway 🫤 just a job and a family, nth else
plus, the family isnt even going well at all
Maybe it's the only way they know
I mean they did survive so maybe it works lol
Can I ask one thing like out of the subject
works for them ig, im not sure if im just weak, but im 🤏 this close to ||unaliving|| myself (sry if i trigger anyone)
yea sure
Then you have to be Strong I mean it's the only choice we have since we're kids like they wouldn't even listen to us
true, but strong for who 💀
Are you Filipino too? Lol cause almost all Filipino kids have the same situation
For yourself? For your boyfriend? For your friends?
nah, but my country is close?
no exactly close, but to the left
Don't make me guess lmao
i gave up on myself, i dont hv a boyfriend and my friends dont give af
hahahha, it's easy
it's alright tho. i'll just tell u, it's singapore
live laugh love singapore
We could be friends if you want to? There's so many great people out here I know
hahaha sure, idm
Ayoo Love Singapore!!
but im kinda boring ngl, so yea...
Why so?
I'm not bored with our talk right now
u'll soon be 😭
cause im an introvert, my friends always says im boring lol
Maybe they're not meant to be your friends?
You mean friends irl?
awh, dont cry, it's not worth crying
yea
i mean, theyre nc but the stuff they say are really mean
You're late I'm already crying lol
suck it back in 😭
You should find new friends
cant
Why not
Well you already made one!!
everyone knows the people in my friend group, so yea, it's better to not yk
Yeah lol the Populars, The Weirdos and the Boys
thanks 🫶
Well what kind of group are you in
aint no way im joining w the weirdos, like sure, idm them being weird, but im sure we're not gonna be on the same page
Some of them are kind too don't judge peoples lol
they are kind, but we just dont click
plus, im in the same class, same team, same group as my friends
and i love them too
Are your friends mean to you?
aint no way im finding new friends
But you said they don't give a fuck about you
a bit, but it bothers me a lot
well, yea, they did care in the past
Are you a sensitive person?
i- i dont know, but im pretty sure i am
Mhmm maybe you could set boundaries?
Like if you get offended by your friends or something
Like confront them about it?
i really wanted to, but i dont wanna be perceived as a sensitive person
a girl in our friendgroup confronted them about it cause they we're treating her badly, but they ended up talking shit about her
I mean if that's what you really are then what's wrong with that? If they are really your friends I'm sure they'll understand you
they wont understand, they'll think im the problem. besides, why should they change just because im sensitive
im not saying tht they should keep treating me badly, but im saying tht they wouldnt care
idk man
Cause they are your friends?
i dont even know what's going on anymore
yea, sure...
I think you are friends with the wrong people like what kind of friend talks shit about their friend just because she confronted them
well yea, cause the way they think is "why is it our problem if she's sensitive? like we didnt even do anything" and i dont blame them for it
Then yeah you have to find another friends
i understand it could be really tiring if they just chilling, but their friend keeps thinking negatively and blaming them for it
again, i cant
Wait I'll be back in 5 minutes my mom would beat me up if she saw the house dirty💀💀
hahah, u better clean it up
Well you have to
i cant even if i wanted to
@atomic narwhal Ayooo sorry I'm late I'm eating lol
I've rushed back here cause I don't want you to think I got bored of you lol
Let's talk again after my mom beats me up
Give me another 5 minutes
Where u at lol
nah, i was doing my hw
Alright good luck!!
hahaha np
Nahh I'm used to it lol
I still love my mom lmao
i fkin hate school and i kinda dont wanna to go to school tmr 😭 but im scared my friends will call me a coward
wow, couldnt relate
Nahh you should too
She feeds you
You gotta be grateful for that even if that's her responsibility
yea, but she's the one who make me hate myself...
i dont hate her but i dont love her either
it's just neutral ig
tho i still respect her either way
You can love yourself then I guess lol
i am trying too hhahaha
Things will get better for you trust me
hope so too
Just do the things you love
And be a smart student I guess lol
How was school? You love school?
no, i hate school
it's not the best place i wanna be
im trying, but studying is just not my thing
So you both hate your home and your school?
Nahh you don't need to force yourself just listen to the teacher and you're good that's what I do and I always get good grades maybe it will work for you too?
yea, this house is just the same as school
Well I don't talk to anyone when there's a teacher
So where do you belong?
hmm idk why but im just always tired, even after i get 8 hours of sleep and many cans of coffee
great question, idk
Ayoo don't drink too much coffee you're killing yourself 💀💀
That's why you should make a place where you belong
ik, i dont drink a lot tho, just sometimes
hmm, but idk where
School is the best place then
fk school
You got everything you need there
nah man, i'd rather be at home than school
Blud how can I convince you to go to school lol
nth, cause there's nth fun to do at school. plus, the teachers there are so damn annoying
I mean you have everything at school you got people to talk to you can be confident at school you know be a smart student and have a huge ego like me lol
My teachers throw notebooks all the time lol they're funny
it's different when ur friends left u out of convo, when u kept getting yelled at by teachers or when u hv bunch of assignments/hw unfinished
at u or just throw
But trust me you're still young give life a chance not every time is gonna be a hard time
At us lol
it wasnt tht bad back then
Nahh I don't have friends but school is my favorite spot to hang out
lmaooo, if no one is getting hurt then it would be fine
yea, but i really hate it when everyone just looks at u weirdly when u just wanna pass by
idk how to explain but yeah
Well it's only gonna get worse lol wait till you get a job
Nahh you're overthinking things they're just looking at you cause you're in their way
honestly i really dont care about the future cuz im barely surviving rn
yea, but it still feels uncomfortable
i wish everyone would just dissapear lol
What's the root of all your problems?
me
Goddamn good thing I didn't say to remove the root of the problems
lmaooo, even if u did i wouldnt take it srsly cuz ik u didnt meant it
Why do you hate yourself so much
idk man, it's hard to explain
Do you hate your looks? Or do you think you're dumb? Something like that?
Basically low self esteem
i hate everything about myself
if tht makes sense
yeah
Give me an example why you hate yourself
like i hate my personality, i hate my brain, i hate my body, i hate my life just hate yk
cause im always ruin everything and i always overthink
Let's get this thing one by one
What's your personality like?
and im the ugliest in my friend group so yea
The only ugly thing in here is your mindset
shitty, annoying, boring, bad?, im not a really good friend either...
wow... uhm true
You're not annoying to me and totally not boring!!!
maybe cause u still dont know me long enough? idk
im sry if im being so negative and all tht
but i srsly cant be positive anymore
Maybe? Well I'd like to get to know you more!!
It's fine I understand if you feel that way
idk man, i just feel like a piece of shit most of the time
Maybe you could start with self improvement?
tbh, im someone who would wish the worst for their friends just because they are jelous
yea, im trying
i did try to like change my mindset and alll
Well good thing I'm not jealous
but at the end of the day, it's still goes back to how it was
like i meant like i would wish for my friends to fail cause they are better than me in stuff tht im interest
If you try hard enough you could!! I've been on self improvement for 434 days now and the first two months is the hardest
I don't even know what to say gaddamn
i've tried everything and honestly, i dont wanna try anymore, i'll just go w the flow tbh
yea, im a bad person arent i?
Maybe? But not bad enough for me to hate you
I don't like hating peoples
but bad enough for me to hate myself
Well you could change that
i dont know man, i really wanted to change, but nth is changing at all
Is there someone who motivates you?
like most of the time i just wish i was just not alive
no, not anymore
Uhmm what about the person you like
i dont even know how
He could motivate you
i dont have anyone tht i like currently
Gaddamn you're in a serious situation
yeahahahha
You're the first person I've ever seen who is so negative about herself
it's okay tho, u shouldnt be concern about it too much
damn fr?
i thought there's a lot of people like tht
Well not really I just don't usually listen to people who feels that way
oh lol
it's understandable if u cant really help tho
Idk I just see my old self in you or something lol
yeah, but u cant really expect me to change like how u did in the past
cause it's different
maybe u're experience is worst? idk
Yeah I know but I'm trying to help!!
i can tell, u're a really nc person btw
Nahh worse or not you're still feeling shitty about yourself and that's not good
ik, been feeling like tht for years
Thank you, you're such a nice person too
tbh, when i was way younger, i told my mom tht i wanted to ||kms|| and she told me to do it and she doesnt really believe i can do it
Well maybe this is a start?
maybe yea
idk my emotions are just like a rollercoaster
it goes up and down and up and down
Well that's something different but all you need to do is focus on yourself right now you don't need to listen to anyone
like i dont even know what will happen next
i'll try
Goddamn mood swings too?
But you know what to do right now so that's fine you're in the right path
not like mood swings, it's more like for a period of time everything is going well, and just when i thought tht maybe im getting happier, everything just takes a turn for the worst
We don't really know what's gonna happen next we just know that we're doing the right thing
hmm okay
Can you give an example?
You weren't kidding when you said you were a sensitive person
like lets say 2 months ago, when me and my friends are still close, i didnt hv much interaction w my mom, things were going the right way, i was on the right track, and suddenly boom, suddenly my friends were agressive towards me, i started to slack off, my mom is making me feel like piece of shit, my volleyball and debate practice are starting and im getting bussier, and lately im just really tired even if i slept early
so yea
Maybe your friends are the problems lol
I mean that's just life you started eating now you're pooping lol
well, yea, im trying to fix tht
Well that's a bad comparison
How do you plan to fix that
communicating
idk
trying to communicate here
Yeah you should set up boundaries with your friends
Wdym
oh, im currently trying to communicate with my friends
not like right now
but these days
Mhmm that's good
yea
Are they good? Like no smoking? no Bullying?
Are they a good role model to you?
Sorry if I suddenly talk like a mom lol
nope, they are like popular mean girls hahahah
erm, it's just they dont study or pay attention in class
and they sometimes gets in trouble for wearing makeup or not following school rules
Mhmm I get it, we have them here too lol
but i dont see any big prob with tht
oh lol yea, but they are popular cause they are pretty tho
but obviously it's not just pretty
some of them are like athletes
they can be quite judgy sometimes
Mhmm and you think you're like the lowest?
yea, im the least attractive in my friend group
like im invisible in the friend group?
idk
i mean, im happy tht they get the recognition tht they deserve but i still feel like shit sometimes yk
Well I don't think so, you're such a nice person how could someone thinks being nice is unattractive
Nahh you gotta start villain arc lol
lmaoo not the villain arc
If you're jealous then beat them at everything they're good at
i cant beat them on looks tho
I might be a bad role model lol
they are just so pretty
u're not ahahhaha
Nahh looks ain't everything
it's gonna take a while tho if i actually wanted to be better than them, plus it will be extra tiring
Being Smart makes you attractive
nah, i swear they are like goddess yk
no guys like nerdy bitches
Well I like them
Nahh even if they look like that there's always a mf who will beat you at it
yea, but u gotta be pretty in the first place lol
Nahh looks isn't everything lol
there's smth called pretty privileges
I like kind and sweet girls and who call them bitches that's so rude lmao
I know but they're not gonna be pretty forever or something
true, but what is important is now soooo
Well all you can do is be confident that you are pretty
Is it weird to like smart and sweet people cause I'm like one of the people who you call a "popular"
I don't really wanna call people Populars lol we only got 40 people in the class how can they be popular
u cant be confident if u aint pretty cause people are gonna start talking
i dont know man, everyone has their own preferences but my preferences is people whos like pretty and nc
Being confident also means not caring about what other people thinks about you
Ayoo you like girls?
when i meant my friends are popular, i meant like even the seniors know them and some of them even told my friends they like tht
yes i go both ways
i dont think i can change the fact tht i care cause like what people says actually affects me a lot
like ik tht it's my life and i shouldnt give af, but then again, im still affected by it?
Mhmmm are you that popular too?
no 💀
maybe ik like 100 people in my school
but they know like 500
if u get what i mean
Bro wtf
Well you sure are popular I take that back
Well I am honored to talk to someone like you lol
You need to stop giving a fuck about what other people thinks
100 is less wdym 😭
my school has like 1500 just in the morning session
cant 😔
Well at least I know 6 people at my school
im sure u know more than 6
Nahh I'm being for real
like for close friends yea, i only hv 5 but i just know people, sometimes we wave and shit but tht's all
huh-
hmm, maybe it's cause my friends are popular? idk
Well I don't give a fuck about other people so I normally forget their names
It is well sometimes I guess??
Helps me reduce anxiety lol
I don't like when there's like a lot of people around
i mean, saying hi or wave doesnt mean they swarm up on u like a bunch of bees
they hv their own friends too
it's just hi, or maybe when u're at a club or school event and ur close friends arent there with you but at least there's like other people u know to hv little chats with
Nahh I'm a super shy creature lol
What club are you in!!
yea, tht was what i was thinking hahahha
Sports Club too
ohh, what sport did u chose
I guess I'm a little weird lol
Did you fall asleep or something lol
Well I guess good night
ohh, badminton is nc
nah, maybe u just like math n sc
i was showering jn sry
hahha okay, gn
Yeah lol
Ohh I thought you fell asleep sorry I just like talking with you I don't know you're such a nice person it's complicated lol
Alright good night!! Let's talk again whenever you want to!! If you even want to talk to me lol
it's glad to know tht u enjoy talking with me :D
yea sure, gn
Rea doesn't want to talk to me anymore😭😭
Well it's too bad I was serious about wanting to be your friend

nah since when did i say tht
im serious too
i was just busy lol
sry about tht