Isn't it wrong to make your partner get more comfortable with her gender while shes having dysphoria

[glacial meteor]

..Is been awhile since our last talk but i wondered this question a long time ago..So all things started to happen at the start of 2023 when she published me that she wants to be a transgender,i dont really think thats a good idea but i let her free so i accept seeing my partner as a he...is not really a problem until i saw he changes alot from the way he talks to people and how he wear.He changed so fast that i dont...want to see him like this.In february the worse thing happened that he..cheated on me to go with another one because...my carelessness..Im not being careless anytime when with him,he got alot of trouble with his life and his heart is damaged due to the stess he had..so i spend my time with him so he can get some safety,warmth and feeling empathy from me..but i dont think i tried enough...since that time im currently preparing for an country exam's that is really important because the exams itself based on my grades to send me to the school which i can be in..After the exams,i still try to contact him so i can ask does his new partner being good to him..but no his partner cheated on him so i help him out again to get over that pain..But after i can see that he learned a lot of bad habits from the old partner and being more masculine..I cant see him like this so i have a talk with him about the changes of him and he forced himself to be as masculine as he can..that makes me worried and i dont want to see my partner be that much masculine..i know he cheated on me but i still want him to be with me so i can make him feel safer from his environment..But he mad at me because i asked that question..He swore on me and blocked me without a goodbye..After a week i joined his experience..And he swore on me again that he got heart attack a lot after it..

...his friend swear on me because i dont have enough responsibility to take care of him and im traumatized after all,i dont know i make him hurt this much..he even said that im the reason why he got heart attack more often and depression..i just want him to feel more comfy with his real gender but i dont know its gonna go this way..i havent expected this..i just want he to understand myself having alot of stress from seeing him changing alot from a normal girl to a super masculine girl..i dont want him to be hurt and i dont want him like this...he changed a lot..what can i do,i cant redo what have i done and hes still in depression and heart attack more frequent..

GODDAMN IT.

i asked alot of server about this but never recieved a reply

...i go to therapy center for help but they are not available

i search on google what should i do and am i wrong but theres no result for it

and im sorry for my bad grammar pffftt..awh

[toxic jackal]

if he cheated just leave

that isnt excusable

or wdym by cheating?

were u in a relationship with him?

or how it is?

oh so u were u explained later

mate u arent his savior, nor his parent

if he cheated just leave, thats completely unexcusable and hes just using u for emotional support

[toxic jackal]

u arent "the reason" he is just searching for someone to blame instead of himself

u did everything u could and supported him even tho he acted immorally towards u

[glacial meteor]

i were in a relationship with him for 1 year,is great at the start but after February 2023 things go worse because i noticed hes more masculine than before

sigh* i honestly dont know..is hard to let him go since i have a lot of promises to do to him

[glacial meteor]

sigh* there are a lot of reason..but mostly because his inactivity to me ALTHOUGH he online everyday..he ignored me a lot and just..skip all my messages about my feelings,he just want to spend time with his friend more than me..
more things,we talked about making matching pfp at march but..yeah after 2 months,theres just...nothing,he havent do it and literally forget about it..
and..yeah his friend affecter a lot on his feelings to me and he lost his feeling too..started to develop feelings on others which is..kind of a play boy (pak boy i have to say) because hes way masculine than me..i figured it out at april but i still watching them until june..i saw the pic they flirt each other and their matching pfp,avas,...i pulled him but is too late and he said im careless because i never...never understand his pain..he said im the one who needs to be removed in his life although i just want to help him..and he go with a damn message "hes way better than u,im sorry but u can have another one now..."

July,they broke up because his partner just dont care about him and he pulled me back..,i know i should just denied but i dont want him to suffer his pain alone (he got his heart damaged,depression and anxiety with social)
we were back for a month and i realized he really changed from the way he talk,dress and..he consider himself as a he and myself as a REAL he cant accept jt because people will think im gay or kind of lgbt stuff which i dont want..

i asked him about it and making himself feel more comfy with his gender but..yeah u know it

[glacial meteor]

it does a fact that he blame me..but hes way masculine than me,a REAL male
im 60% masculine and 64% feminine
i dont know why it is but the test said so..and hes 90% masculine and he has dysphoria so i..i dont know

oh yes- i am,sorry because my pronunciation

[sonic jacinth]

I mean srry to interrupt but what exactly do you mean by masculine? There are masculine girls out there that don't necessarily go through a transition, being masculine is just a way of behaving so I don't see why you so affected by them changing, although if they're being disrespectful or literally changing their whole personality to be ''masculine'' then that's another issue, not about masculinity

[glacial meteor]

pronunciation toward us and he wanna be more masculine than before and im not the person whos that much masculine so he left me alone and go to find someone thats masculine for him so he can changes as that one does
and yes u are right ,he changed his personality because he thinks that its necessary change

[sonic jacinth]

Well, maybe their feel that need to change that much wether it be because of their confidence or other issues but it is okay to say that you aren't their caretaker, you have to take care of you and it's way too much responsability and weight to take other person in that space where you care for you

you still can be caring for them, just don't forget about you and draw a clear line of what you shouldn't do for them

[sonic jacinth]

but by pronunciation you mean.....??

[glacial meteor]

like
yeah im half masculine and half feminine so...yeah he consider myself as a girl more than a boy

here

[sonic jacinth]

I mean... I personally see a bit excessive doing does type of tests, because is very relative in each person the type of behaviour they have and it can change plus you don't know how the questions are qualifying you

agree

[glacial meteor]

mmm,i agree

[toxic jackal]

break up if u are still with him, and if not, block him and dont stalk ever again

its useless and not healthy for you

[toxic jackal]

going into a relaitonship after that past is just nonsense, it cant be healthy at all if he acted this way towards you

[glacial meteor]

sigh* ur right

thanks all of u guys though

[toxic jackal]

and even if u stayed for whatever reason, 1. u cant change how he views himself and who he wants to be, 2. you would feel uncomfortable just by associating yourself with him bcs of the whole gender shenanigans

dont stay in a problematic situation long term if u can simply leave