I am 17 years old and i just recently broke up with my first love. But its not for a normal reason. She still loves me and I still love her, but because of a past traumatic experience she had (she was very close to her cousins who passed away last year) she has been feeling lost for the past year and hasnt been able to get into a relationship because of it. She wants to fix this for me, but she wants to break up for now so she can have her own time. I tried to get her to do therapy but because she comes from a Indian household (and so do I) she can't really talk to her parents about therapy as she doesn't want then to know that she was trying to get into a relationship. So, I have taken in upon myself to get help.
#Heartbroken
nova pewter
vague fjord
That’s the first and best step is to seek professional help, I understand where both of you are coming from, I’ve been through the same, but as life goes on I realized that there are people who love you more than the other at times, and I think it’s super mature if you guys for not resenting each other after the break up and that you guys still love each other, that just shows you that she still wants to be with you but her circumstances are what the problem is, but I also know that people deal with trauma differently like with me I need someone by my side to help me deal with it and I know some people don’t want anyone near them when they go through it, maybe she’s worried that what’s she’s going through is going to hurt you, I think understanding and patience is required in these situations, I can’t tell by what she has said and done to you that she’s not going anywhere at least that’s what it seems like to me
Love you brotha, I’m sure everything will work out and be ok
nova pewter
yo thanks man i hope it works out well but its just hard right now cuz that first love and break up hits deep
she says that she will stay and wait to fix for me but yk how some girls get they say that next minute they're off
vague fjord
Totally understandable, but in case it doesn’t work out, you’ll know how to love someone properly
A saying that I tell people in situations is that it’ll all be ok in the end and if it isn’t ok, then it isn’t the end
nova pewter
yeh right man im 17 i have alkot of life ahead of me
vague fjord
Very true that’s the whole reason I started making music and made a career out of it, I want people to know that I understand what they’re going through and that there’s always someone who understands
I went through a super bad break up, made a song about it and released it at midnight of today technically, and I’m debating on whether or not to send it to her
But in due time
nova pewter
how she break up with u bro
vague fjord
She did it in the nicest way possible, basically the same way you’re love did except that mine just never had alone time to connect with herself and that’s what she wanted, but I made the dumb mistake of trying to kill myself and it wasn’t entirely her fault, I had a super bad week prior to the break up and the break up was just when I snapped
I don’t hate her though, she was super nice about it and I kinda overreacted
vague fjord
I’ll send you one of my tt with her and I in it with a small part of the song I wrote about her and she had no idea that I asked the tt and I want you’re thought on if I should send it
nova pewter
yeh send it thru bro
vague fjord
Want me to send you a link to the full song?
nova pewter
i think you should deffo send that
nova pewter
Want me to send you a link to the full song?
ah if u want to
vague fjord
I’m thinking I will, I had to dm it to you bc it wouldn’t let me post it here
nova pewter
yh that good man