My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now. To sum up a very long story, I fear he is falling out of love with me. Prior to our relationship and especially during the early months of it, we were both equally obsessed with one another and we were each other’s only friend (for me, anyway). We are both still in high school, and since he was gone for the entirety of the summer in California, i worried greatly that during his trip he would forget or fall out of love with me. Fast forward a month or so; school is back in session, and there’s an even more unsettled feeling in my stomach. Over the summer, he attended two college programs and in them made lots of friends. Lots and lots of friends. He tells me how almost every one of them confessed that they liked him romantically, despite knowing of his relationship with me and not knowing him but for a mere few weeks. I am quite the jealous type; very overprotective of him and very involved in what he does, consensually of course. He is fine with that, yet he speaks of his many other friends so often to the point where it feels like he is fueling my jealousy on purpose to get some sort of reaction. His obsession with his new friends isn’t the only thing that’s worrying me.
#Is he falling out of love with me?
chrome spade
(Continued) Previously, we used to see each other as often as possible and more. We would take time out of our busy schedules to see one another. And while we were together, we were very touchy (not at all in a sexual way), giving each other kisses and hugs and cuddling most of the time. Neither of us even had to think. We would talk, laugh, smile. We always had something to talk about. Now that the summer has ended and school started back, he’s been treating me a bit differently. He barely speaks to me when he sees me; not in a purposeful way. He never initiates any sort of physical contact like he used to. And I would myself, but I’m scared because I don’t know if that’s what he wants anymore. I still love him with all of my heart and soul. His ‘i love you’ messages have become less and less frequent, as are the goodnight/morning ones. Small changes, I know. But they still mean a lot to me. He hasn’t been texting me as much, sometimes only once or twice a day and for a very short time, yet I’ve realized he talks to his friends much more often. He tells them secrets that he will not share with me. He video calls them; something he’s never even offered to do with myself. And what hurts the most, I think, is finding out he’s been lying to me about some things and hearing this from his friends directly. He was my first kiss and I had been led to believe I was his too, but as it turns out I was his third. Or fourth. I’m not even sure, really. I’ve never even thought of him a liar (even if only on small, unimportant things) and it stings to find this out from his new friends. I just wish things would go back to how they were, without the looming presence of his new friends hanging in the air whenever we are together. I think he might be falling out of love with me, and here I am, still head over heels for him.
somber cedar
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i'd bring it up to him, there is no clear way to see or to know whether or not your partner's losing interest. the only way to truly know is to talk to him about it. of course don't sound too pushy, but make your intentions clear and straight to the point.
severe cedar
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Confront him and find out the truth, after that set good rules and boundaries in how you will continue your relationship or u will break up, either way u have to find out.