sooo who wants to be w me

[vast ether]

Bro I’m depressed rn my gf dumped me and I feel alone w nobody to talk to or hold onto I need someone to be w me I am into women and am a trans woman if you want to be w me as a significant other please tell me I am very alone rn

[torpid steeple]

Without wanting to hit a nerve,Why does being single makes you feel lonely? Is it the idea of being used to some type of company and suddenly not having it anymore or is this coming from somewhere else?

[vast ether]

I have been alone my entire life til recently and it made me realize how terrible my life was and now that I’m back to it I just realize how ||crappy|| it is

[torpid steeple]

so how long has it been since the last time you were single?

did you feel back then as you're feeling now?

[vast ether]

I know it can be hard to have no significant other but I feel like you need to learn to be comfortable without having a partner and learn to enjoy just your own company

[vast ether]

No it’s different and about a year

[torpid steeple]

then your life worth shouldn't depend on another person but you, if you feel your life is some sort of way is because you chose it to be that way (unless you have lived some sort of unfair situation), I don't want to sound so abrupt with my word so sorry about that but we humans depend only in ourselves to survive aside of our parents, so if possible don't neglect the power and control you have over your life because you are gonna need it. If possible finding comfiness in your own or daily activities and being grateful for all that can help you

[vast ether]

One more quick question

This has nothing to do with the past topic

[torpid steeple]

yeah?

[vast ether]

Do you think I was supported well by my parents I didn’t have a father my mother scolded me for every little thing she yelled at me a lot and had very height standards cuz some people say I had a messed up childhood I do not see anything wrong in it what about you

[torpid steeple]

Well, personally and totally my opinion a parent is not the biological and in paper person that takes care of you but the one that is present and is willing to watch you growth and guide you in the process (this could sound messed up to some people but thats just my opinion). About your father I can't say that's support but as for your mother, scolding doesn't always have to be bad (of course if you see it from outside it could) she could be caring about you but maybe didn't know how to reach you in any other way that scolding or putting you high standars, maybe that has what she only knew to commicate at that moment with you and protect you from society

again this is just a maybe because its my opinion and can't really know what your parents are thinking, but thats what I think from the context that you gave me

[vast ether]

That’s what I keep saying

[torpid steeple]

and that's what it could be, Do you tend to communicate with her?

or is it difficult?

[vast ether]

I tend to try not to…

[torpid steeple]

because? the situation doesn't tend to scalate well?

Aslong as you see care from a parent I would consider them supportive, they may have different ideas from you but as long as you clarify gently what makes you uncomfortable then thats fine

[vast ether]

I do but she doesn’t care all that much she says I am too sensitive and need to get used to stuff more if I didn’t she yells at me until I cry…

[torpid steeple]

maybe is not that she doesn't care but that she doesn't get why you feel that way

a lot of adults don't know how to react when they hear something that has make sense for them for a long time and some of them tend to react like that

[vast ether]

Yeah

[torpid steeple]

she may not have bad intention but if possible, if you feel able to try to comprehend the situation and calmly tell her that you are looking to battle of win are argument but rather looking for her comprehension and support

[vast ether]

Eh close enough I know she won’t give support but if I can get her to stop screaming that’s close enough

Thank you

[torpid steeple]

yeah thats a good start, hope it goes well