Girlfriend of 8 years broke up with me. Understand why, but I can't get over it.

[silent palm]

So, me and my ex girlfriend were together for 8 years, basically since freshman year of highschool (I'm 24. Today's my birthday. Eyy.) We had a few issues in the past, but ever since about 2 years ago we had absolutely no problems with each other. She was into basically everything I was into, and vice versa. We were in an apartment together, we had 2 cats, our ||sex life|| was great, even up until the end. I'm currently going through college, but that barely puts a strain on our relationship at all, I like her family, and she loves mine, even bonding with my autistic sister, to the point where she was calling my ex girlfriend her big sister. Along with this, since I am a pretty old soul, I listen to her emotional issues, and whenever she needs advice, I give her good advice. I was even saving up money for an engagement ring, up until the last day of our relationship which was (in 2 days) a month ago. She approached me after work, and told me that she wants to split, because she isn't attracted to men anymore. I was absolutely devastated, as I was certain that she was my endgame, although this could be due to this being my first and only relationship, and also due to this, I don't know how to move on from this. I have tried to emotionally talk to my family, but that isn't something that helps, I am unsure why. I have friends, but not one that I can realistically call my best friend, nor do I think I can confide in one emotionally. I would go to therapy, but it is expensive in my area, and I am not the richest man. I just kind of don't know what to do with the thoughts going through my brain. ||I do sometimes have suicidal thoughts, but I would never ever do it, since my family also relies on me, in more ways than one||I guess that's it. I just don't know how to recover from this.

In case this question comes up, I did not see any signs of her struggling with her sexuality at all, even while she would emotionally confide in me. It quite literally happened all in one day, it just feels like a nightmare almost.

[willow swan]

Attachment takes time to dissolve, especially if the relationship was long, expect atleast 3 - 6 months for it to get better. There rly isnt a fast way how to do it but u can take preventive steps - being active so u dont disintegrate into cycles of depression, not avoiding your feelings bcs avoiding leads to repressed grief, excercise helps a bit getting trauma out of your body.

[dapper wedge]

That's rough man. Sorry to hear that. I don't know what to say.

That's depressing. I like what the person above me said, know it's going to take some time, maybe some talking to people - if you don't have anyone you can always talk to new people, explain your situation to them and ask for advice. It's not as hard as you think it might be. People are generally happy to give advice and talk about stuff as long as you word it correctly.

Stay doing things you enjoy. Sit with any feelings you get, this will allow you to process them so like the person above said you can get them out of your system.

I had suicidal thoughts and my saving grace was The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. A book that transformed my life. Made me realise what I was, and I still have suicidal thoughts sometimes but the intensity is less. Eat healthy and avoid foods that make you not feel well.

Hope this offers some comfort to what you're going through ❤️

[pliant hatch]

im concluding since you were listening to her emotional problems all the time it seems because she has so many emotions shes developed some kind of mental illness i mean no offense but most gay people have a mental illness. im not a psychiatrist (even though i dream of becoming one) but thats just the case with most people who turn gay all of a sudden without showing any signs