#How important and relevant are skills or being talented at something?

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zenith yacht
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Does it even really matter for other people if I'm good at something? Or is it way more important to have a funny likeable personality people can relate to. I'm naturally a pretty introverted guy and don't have the most fun personality in fact I'm pretty negative and weird but I like to draw, write stories and play guitar and some people think I'm pretty good at what I do (still improving tho). Should I be much more focused on improving on my social skills and learn to make people laugh and stuff? I'm asking because I feel like I'm either not good enough at what I do or just have a bad personality.

random palm
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bro, pm me rn, i am the exact same as you

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i do all those things

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what i did

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was try to be friendly to people

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listen to them

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tell them interesting stories from reddit, it works

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i found my bff that way

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godspeed

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both of those things matter

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work on your personality, and skills

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and look approachable

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if you need more help, pms opem

lavish sigil
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Your personality is developing. Your talents can help it develop, they're not just so others will be impressed with you.

Socially, people will like you for who you are. If you cultivate positive traits and characteristics, you'll be likeable and attract others.

You're clearly in touch with yourself, and that's good. None of us are born with perfectly balanced personality. We all take time to reflect, and make improvements.

bitter jungle
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And yes, improving your communication and how you express yourself may be the most important part.

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You dont have to be an extrovert, or trying to make everyone amused, but noone will like an inroveted, reclusive, dry and nihilistic guy.

zenith yacht
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I feel like I can't really be otherwise

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Unless I put a lot of effort into it, and it feels so cumbersome

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I'm natural when I'm "dry and nihilistic" it's just how I feel comfortable

scarlet tiger
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Hey folks

zenith yacht
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Hello

scarlet tiger
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I relate to your original comments quite a lot

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You dont have to put on a show, be amusing, funny or enjoy the same things as anyone. Doing so will attract people who enjoy the facade you are putting up, and wont actually like the real you

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I know this is incredibly cliché, but just be you, you can manage that 24/7 and it wont make you feel like shit, putting up a mask in the long run you know?

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Im not going to sit here people will flock to you and be your besties overnight. Most people dont like the truth and genuine people, but some do, and thats the kind of people you need to find with time and give a shit about

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Anything and everything you do publicly is a natural filter, the way you act will always draw in people who act similarly

zenith yacht
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Yea I know it's just that sometimes it feels like no one will

scarlet tiger
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That may be the truth, for some time anyway

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But it is our own individual choice if we would rather be alone truthfully, or be around people only while masking our true personality.

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I cant be arsed to pretend, to put on a mask and play their games. I did that for years through high school, I don't want to live in a facade anymore.

zenith yacht
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Yeah I get that

scarlet tiger
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Thats just subjective though

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Explore your options, see what works and how for YOU, we are all different physically, mentally and biologically.

bitter jungle
zenith yacht
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And be more comfortable with myself

bitter jungle
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that wont change much if you dont have things and interests to talk about

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and do something nice with r time

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depends

zenith yacht
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I mean I already have

bitter jungle
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you dont have to be confident per say

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just expressive is enouhh

bitter jungle