#problem with ex friend

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merry plover
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So basically, a year ago I had a "friend" whom I bullied, and now they don't want to talk to me and are scared of me. However I want to apologize. There are consequences to apologizing if it goes bad but I think it's the right thing to do. The only issue is the person they're dating wants me to leave them alone. So worst case scenario I lose a friend and gain nothing. This is purely to get opinions on it. I've already had multiple people agree with me.

noble pumice
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Dear Gaige The Werepire,

I am glad to see that you are aware of the harm you have cause in the past and are willing to take responsibility for your actions and apologize; however, it's also important to respect the boundaries of the person you bullied and their current partner.

Here are a few tips on how to best approach the situation:

  • Respect boundaries: It's important to respect the boundaries of the person you bullied and their current partner. They have the right to decide if they want to talk to you or not so make sure either of them is comfortable with talking to you first before moving on to anything else.

  • Take responsibility for your actions: Acknowledge that you bullied the person and take responsibility for the harm you caused. Avoid making excuses or placing blame on others.

  • Show genuine remorse: Express genuine remorse for your actions and the impact they had on the person you bullied.

  • Make amends: Offer to make amends in a way that is meaningful to the person you harmed. This could include offering to help them with something, or volunteering to support a cause that is important to them.

  • Be prepared for any outcome: Understand that an apology may not lead to reconciliation and it's important to be prepared for that outcome.

It's important to remember that apologizing is not a one-time action, it's a process. You should also be willing to listen and learn from the person you bullied and make changes to your behavior to ensure that you don't repeat the same mistake again. I hope you find this letter helpful.

Sincerely,
Agent Winter