Eva Hangout Event 4
Eva: Hey, do you remember when we talked about the girls at the inn?
I went back that night, thought about it, and even wrote it down in my journal.
I tried to really get to the bottom of what was going on with me.
Have you seen Macy? She’s just so…gorgeous.
Her hair is this big, beautiful, bouncy thing that practically has a life of its own. And then there’s me. My hair just…lays there.
It’s flat, thin, and no matter what I do, it never looks like hers.
**Player:
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“Your hair is beautiful in its own way."
Eva: Oh…thank you. I’ve never really thought about it like that before.
I guess we’re our own worst critics, huh?
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“Macy has great hair, but that doesn’t mean yours isn’t just as nice.”
Eva: I suppose…It’s just hard not to compare. She seems so…confident.
But maybe you’re right.
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“It’s not about your hair, Eva. It’s about being comfortable with who you are.
Eva: You’re probably right. I need to learn to stop focusing so much on the outside…
It’s just…hard sometimes.**
Eva: I know it shouldn’t bother me. It’s just…she always seems so confident, you know? She walks into a room, and people notice her.
And then there’s Suki, who’s so outspoken, and Alice…they all seem to shine, and I just…fade into the background.
Sometimes I wonder if they even notice me.
**Player:
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"Of course they notice you. You don’t have to be loud to stand out."
Eva: That’s nice to hear. Sometimes I feel invisible around them…like I’m not even in the room. But maybe I don’t need to be loud to matter.
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"You’re just as important as they are. Don’t doubt that."
Eva: Thank you… It’s hard not to doubt myself sometimes, but it helps hearing that from you.
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"It’s okay to be quiet. You don’t need to be anyone but yourself."
Eva: I…I really appreciate you saying that. Being quiet isn’t a bad thing, is it?
I just need to remind myself of that.**
Eva: Thank you for saying that.
I try to remind myself that being quiet isn’t a bad thing. But…it’s hard not to compare myself to them sometimes.
Like…they’re all so comfortable in their own skin, and I just…I’m not.
I guess…I never realized how insecure I actually am.
Not just about my hair, or how I look…but about how I am. I feel like I don’t fit in with them sometimes.
Like, I’m this…quiet, awkward person, and they’re all so…bold and confident.
**Player:
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“Everyone has insecurities. Even the people who seem the most confident.”
Eva: You think so? I guess… I always assumed they didn’t struggle with stuff like this.
But maybe we all have things we’re working through.
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“You don’t need to change yourself to fit in. You’re perfect the way you are.”
Eva: You really think so?
Thank you… That means a lot to me.
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“It’s okay to feel like that sometimes. You’re still finding your way, and that’s alright.”
Eva: I supposed you’re right. It’s a process, isn’t it? I’ll get there…one day at a time.**
Eva: You’re right. It’s just…hard to remember that when you’re surrounded by people who seem to have it all figured out.
I don’t want to be the one who’s always fading into the background.
Maybe…maybe it’s not just about how I look or how I fit in with them. Maybe it’s more about accepting that…it’s okay to be me.
Even if I’m not as loud or as confident as they are.